Most clothing operates on that assumption. You check the tag. You see the color on the hanger. You hold it up to the light and decide if it is the right one. None of that requires a single conscious thought if you can see. For someone who is visually impaired, every one of those steps is a negotiation. A request. A moment of asking for help with something that most people handle completely on their own.

Jaden Armstrong knew this. Not from a textbook. Not from a study he read or a seminar he attended. He knew it the way you only know something when it belongs to the person sitting across from you at dinner. His younger brother is visually impaired. And at some point, Jaden stopped just knowing that as a fact and started paying attention to what it actually looked like, day by day, in the small and unglamorous moments that the rest of the world never stops to consider.

I came across Jaden’s story through the 2026 Louisiana Young Heroes program, recognized by Louisiana Public Broadcasting, and I thought it was fantastic. Jaden is a senior at Liberty Magnet High School in Baton Rouge, and he built a clothing brand called FeelBetter that incorporates braille patches directly into the fabric of garments. The patches tell the wearer the size, the color, and the style. Everything a sighted person reads from a tag in two seconds. For someone who is visually impaired, it means doing that independently, without asking for help, without waiting for someone to describe what they are holding.

He built it because his brother should not have to ask for help with something that basic.

I want to spend a moment on that, because it would be easy to read this story and see it as an entrepreneurship story. Which it is. Or an innovation story. Which it also is. But the root of it is something quieter than either of those labels. Something most people overlook when they are trying to figure out what to do with their lives and their energy.

Jaden’s brother was not in crisis. He was not asking for a solution. He was not writing letters to clothing companies or lobbying for change. He was just living his life, the way his life actually worked, in front of someone who was paying attention.

That is the part I keep coming back to.

There is a version of Jaden’s story where nothing happens. Where he notices the friction his brother navigates in a clothing store, feels a moment of something, and moves on because that is what most of us do. We notice. We feel something. We do not know what to do with it. The feeling passes. Life continues. And the gap stays exactly where it was.

Jaden asked one additional question: what could I actually do about this?

That question changed everything.

It took him to the Young Entrepreneurs Academy in Baton Rouge, a program that teaches high school students to build real businesses from real ideas. Not simulations. Not class projects with fake budgets and imaginary customers. Actual companies, with actual products, pitched to actual judges who know what they are looking at. Jaden brought FeelBetter to YEA. He refined the concept. He built a prototype. He worked through what manufacturing would cost, who the customers would be, how distribution would work, and what the business model would look like past year one. Then he got in front of people and made the case.

He placed in the top six nationally at the YEA competition.

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Let me put that in context. The Young Entrepreneurs Academy competition is not a regional fair. It is national. It draws high school students from across the United States, all of whom have been building businesses for months, all of whom have coaches and mentors and real stakes. Top six means he walked into a room with the best young entrepreneurs in the country and was counted among them.

He did not just hold his own. He held his own for his brother.

After YEA, Jaden used his seed funding to do two things. He manufactured one thousand pieces of FeelBetter clothing. And he filed for a patent.

A patent. While finishing high school.

I want you to think about what both of those things actually mean. Manufacturing a thousand pieces of clothing is not a simple process. You need a design that can be reproduced consistently. You need a manufacturer who can execute it at scale. You need quality control. You need money and contracts and timelines. Adults with years of experience and full-time teams struggle with every step of what Jaden was managing as a teenager with a part-time schedule and a school year to finish.

And the patent. A patent means you have documented your idea in enough technical detail that the federal government recognizes it as a unique invention deserving legal protection. It is not a participation ribbon. It is a legal claim that what you built belongs to you and that others cannot replicate it without your permission. Jaden Armstrong has a patent. At seventeen or eighteen years old, with a vision he traced back to a moment in a clothing store with his brother.

Now I want to talk about what this actually means for leadership. Because that is what this whole series is about, and Jaden’s story gives us something specific and important to work with.

There is a model of leadership that most people learn in school. You identify a big goal. You build a plan. You gather resources and execute. That model is not wrong. But it skips over where most real leadership actually begins.

Most meaningful leadership starts with proximity. With being close enough to someone’s experience that you cannot ignore what you see. Jaden had a visually impaired brother. That proximity gave him a view of a gap that most clothing designers have never considered, not because they are bad people, but because they are not close enough to see it.

The people who are closest to a problem are usually the ones who see it most clearly. Not because they are smarter or more talented. Because the problem is not abstract to them. It has a face. It has a name. It shows up at the dinner table. And that kind of seeing, the kind that comes from love and from proximity, is one of the most undervalued advantages in any room.

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Most people treat it as a burden. Jaden treated it as a starting point.

He looked at what his brother dealt with, and instead of just feeling bad about it, he asked what could be done. That shift, from observation to question to action, is the full arc of leadership in miniature. And anyone can make it. You do not need a special program or a mentor or the right school. You need the willingness to take what you already know and do something with it.

Here is the thing about that willingness. It is not a personality trait you either have or do not have. It is a habit. It is a practice. It is the choice, made again and again, to stay in the discomfort of a problem long enough to ask what could be done instead of moving on.

Think about the people already in your life. Your school, your neighborhood, your family. What is one thing someone you love navigates that most people do not think about? Not a catastrophe. Not a headline. A daily friction. A small gap. The kind of thing that requires a small negotiation every single day, the kind of thing they have probably stopped mentioning because mentioning it does not change anything.

You likely already know what it is. You have probably been living next to it for a while. The question is whether you are willing to stay with that knowledge long enough to ask what you could actually do.

Jaden’s brother did not launch a product. He did not ask for one. He just kept being Jaden’s brother, navigating the world the way his world actually works, while Jaden paid attention.

Attention became FeelBetter. A patent. A thousand pieces of clothing. A top-six national finish.

That is the full cost of asking one serious question and then following it through.

Leadership does not always announce itself. It does not always look like a speech or a strategy or a campaign. Sometimes it looks like a teenager in Baton Rouge watching his brother try to shop for clothes and deciding that somebody ought to fix that. And then deciding that somebody is him.

You do not need to wait for a program to hand you a problem worth solving. You are probably already standing next to one.

If you are ready to develop that habit of attention and turn it into real leadership, my book Actions Earn Respect is built for students who are done waiting to be ready. It is about building the skills and the mindset to lead your actual life, with the people already in it, before you ever have a title or a stage to stand on. Find it on Amazon and start where you are.

Jaden Armstrong did not look past his brother to find a problem worth solving.

He just looked at his brother.

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Minn Vo knows that weight.

In April 2026, WTOP reporter Scott Gelman told his story in a piece called “Family tragedy prompts Northern Virginia teen to launch nonprofit to help homeless.” I thought it was remarkable, and when I read it, I wanted other people to read it too. Vo is a junior at Carter G. Woodson High School in Fairfax County, Virginia. His older brother died while experiencing homelessness in 2024. About a year after that loss, Vo did something most people in his situation don’t do. He went back to the shelter where his brother had stayed. He kept his eyes open. And then he got to work.

Think about what it takes to walk into that building. His brother had died there, in circumstances no family wants to imagine. Vo could have stayed away. He could have let the memory of that place stay at a safe distance, where grief tends to be easier to carry. Instead, he walked through the door, looked around at the people inside, at the conditions they were living in, and decided he couldn’t just feel bad about it.

He felt motivated instead.

“I just feel like everyone should receive the same dignity and support that every other person should have, despite their background or wherever they’re coming from,” Vo told WTOP. “At the end of the day, we’re all human.”

That is not a complicated idea. But it is a harder thing to actually live by than most people realize. It is easy to say everyone deserves dignity when it stays abstract. It is different when you decide that you are the one who has to do something about it.

In December 2025, about a year after his brother’s death, Vo launched a nonprofit called Hands in Hope. Not alone. With students from across Fairfax County who caught the idea and wanted to be part of it. Today, the nonprofit includes about 100 students from several different schools in the county.

One junior. One terrible loss. One hundred students from different schools who said yes.

That kind of traction doesn’t happen by accident. It happens because someone can explain why the work matters and make other people feel like they’re part of something worth showing up for. It requires a vision that is clear enough to follow and compelling enough that people choose it over easier uses of their time.

The nonprofit’s first project was a winter warmth drive. Students collected beanies, blankets, and hand-warmers to distribute to unhoused neighbors during some of the coldest months of the year. Practical things. The kind of things you reach for when the temperature drops and there is no warm building to walk into.

They also assembled more than 70 dental hygiene kits, using items donated by area dentists. Toothbrushes, toothpaste, the basic supplies that most people take for granted and that are genuinely hard to access when you don’t have a stable home.

But here is the detail that stopped me when I read the article: inside every kit, students placed a kindness card. A handwritten or hand-drawn note with a positive message and artwork made by a student. Something personal. Something that said, in effect: a real person took time to think about you specifically.

You could do the work without the kindness cards. Drop off the kits, check the box, move on. Vo didn’t want that. He wanted the people receiving those kits to feel seen, not just served. There is a meaningful difference between a donation and a gesture, and Vo understood it from the start. The kits went out through Second Story, a Northern Virginia organization that works with young people and mothers experiencing homelessness. People already dealing with enormous difficulty found themselves holding something a stranger had made just for them.

“Small things like making a kindness card or participating in activities like this goes a long way,” Vo said. “Even if you think that you’re not making that much of a difference just by making a kindness card, for example, it really goes a long way, and it really does continue to help lead to positive impacts in our community and help those in need.”

Here is what I notice about how Vo leads, because it is worth paying attention to closely.

He didn’t wait until conditions were right. He was in the middle of real grief, carrying a loss that most people would take years to fully process. He had a full school schedule. He had every reason to pull back from the world for a while. He moved forward anyway.

He kept the work concrete. A winter warmth drive is not an abstract idea. It is: here is a person who is cold, here is what they need tonight. When you keep the mission that specific, it becomes possible to act and possible to recruit others around it. People show up for things they can picture, and they stay for things they can see making a difference.

He built a team. Vo didn’t try to do this alone, and he didn’t just grab whoever happened to be nearby. He reached out to students at multiple schools and created something that crossed typical school boundaries. That takes communication. It takes the ability to explain why this work matters, to make other people feel that it is worth their time, and to hold the vision steady even when organizing is exhausting. One hundred students from different schools is not a coincidence. It is evidence.

And he stayed enrolled and on track while doing all of it. He told WTOP that he works to balance the nonprofit with his schoolwork and extracurricular activities because he wants to “make a positive impact and try to gather students and make meaningful change.” That is not a small thing. That is choosing, over and over again, to do something harder than staying comfortable.

People talk about leadership like it is something you’re born with, or something that shows up in student council elections and polished speeches. What Vo did is a much plainer and more useful version of the real thing. He saw something wrong. He had a reason to care. He figured out what he could actually do about it with the resources available to him. And then he did it, consistently, while managing everything else in his life.

That is it. That is the whole formula.

I want you to think about your own situation for a minute.

You may not have lost a brother. You may not be carrying anything close to what Minn Vo has been carrying. But you have noticed something in your community that isn’t right. A problem nobody is fixing. A group of people being overlooked. Something that bothers you every time you pass it, and then you keep moving.

The question Vo’s story is really asking is simple: are you going to keep noticing it, or are you going to decide that you’re the one who starts doing something?

You don’t need 100 people to begin. You probably need one clear idea and two or three people who care as much as you do. Vo probably started there too.

And you don’t need to wait until your life is easier, or until you have more time, or until someone gives you permission. Vo started while his grief was still fresh. He didn’t wait for the right moment. Sometimes the worst possible moment turns out to be the only one that matters enough to use.

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Vo told WTOP that he plans to expand Hands in Hope by adding more schools and recruiting more volunteers. He believes that with more outreach and community effort, the organization can “continue to keep making meaningful change in support of our unhoused neighbors.”

He is already thinking about scale. He is already thinking about the next chapter. That is the mindset of someone who is not doing this for the experience, or the resume line, or the recognition. He is doing it because the problem is real and he intends to keep working on it.

That is a junior in high school. In Fairfax County, Virginia. Right now.

I want to close with something Vo said that I keep returning to.

He said that recipients of Hands in Hope’s work are able to “see that they’re valued and seen and that they aren’t alone in their struggling situations.”

Valued and seen. Not alone.

That is what leadership looks like when it is operating at its most honest. It is not about being recognized or building a platform or having something impressive to write on an application. It is about refusing to let other people disappear, even when the world makes it easy to look away.

Minn Vo lost his brother. And then he decided that nobody else in his community should feel invisible.

That decision is the whole point.

If you are working on building the kind of courage it takes to lead when it matters, not just when it is easy, I would point you toward Actions Earn Respect by Alan J. Klingensmith. It is written for students who want to act their way into leadership rather than wait to be handed it. The courage Minn Vo showed, to step toward a hard problem when every instinct might say step back, is exactly the kind of thing this book is built around. Worth your time.

One junior. One terrible loss. One hundred students ready to show up.

That is how it starts.

Not when I was young and full of drive and unsure what to do with it. Not in a way that would have made a real difference at sixteen or seventeen, when the energy was there and the direction was unclear.

Leadership gets talked about constantly in schools. Assemblies. Posters in the hallway. Election campaigns for student council. But very rarely does anyone sit down and explain the actual mechanics of it. The daily behaviors. The specific choices that build a reputation over time. What you do on a Tuesday afternoon when there is no vote happening and no title on the line and something needs to get done.

That gap is exactly why I wrote Actions Earn Respect. It is a book written for students, by Alan J. Klingensmith, built around one core idea: you do not need a title to lead. You lead through your actions. And your actions are what earn the respect that every effective leader eventually needs. I am genuinely proud of how this one came together, and I believe it is the most direct, honest conversation about student leadership I know how to have.

Here is the belief I have watched hold students back more consistently than anything else.

Somewhere along the way, they pick up this idea that leadership is something you receive. A title. A vote. A formal appointment. Something granted to you by someone above you that says, officially, you are the one now. Until that arrives, the thinking goes, you stay in your lane and let the people with titles handle things.

That belief does real damage. More than most people realize.

Think about what it actually costs. Every school, every team, every organization has people who can see the problem clearly, who understand what needs to happen, and who are completely capable of moving things forward. Some of them act. Others wait. The ones who wait are not less talented or less committed than the ones who act. They are simply operating under a belief that holds them in place.

The ones who act, without waiting, without a title, without official permission, those are the people who build the reputations that last. Not because they were handed anything. Because they acted first and earned what came after.

The word “respect” in the title of this book is doing specific work, and I want to be precise about what it means.

This is not about popularity. It is not about being liked or named to a position. Real respect, the kind that actually functions in a school or on a team or in any group working toward something together, is trust that has been built through consistent behavior over time.

When you do what you said you would do, people trust you.

When you step up before anyone asks you to, people take notice.

When you own your mistakes instead of explaining them away, something counterintuitive happens: people trust you more, not less. Because they know you will tell them the truth about what happened and you will do something about it.

When you tell the hard truth even when staying quiet would be easier, people learn they can count on you for the real answer instead of the comfortable one.

This is how respect actually gets built. Not announced. Not awarded. Earned. The currency is your behavior, repeated consistently, over time.

Actions Earn Respect walks through the specific habits that build this kind of leadership identity before any formal role exists. Four behaviors show up consistently in students who develop into people others genuinely respect, and all four are actionable right now.

The first is showing up fully.

Not just physically present, but genuinely engaged. Bringing your real attention to the room. Actually listening instead of waiting for your turn to talk. Responding to people as if what they are saying matters to you, because it should. Most people move through their obligations on autopilot. The student who is genuinely present, who brings their full attention to the moment in front of them instead of half their attention and half their phone, stands out every single time without trying to. That kind of presence is noticed by the people around you. It cannot be faked consistently. It is earned, not performed.

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The second is accountability.

This one is harder than most people expect it to be, and more important than most realize. Accountability is not only about accepting consequences when things go wrong. It is about creating a pattern where you own the outcome before the conversation about blame begins. When a project misses the mark, you say: here is what I will do differently. When you drop the ball, you say: that was on me. No lengthy explanation. No deflecting to what someone else did. No context that softens the admission. Just: that was mine, and here is what comes next.

You do not need a title to practice this. You need the honesty to stop explaining and start adjusting. Accountability is the behavior that tells everyone around you: you can trust me with real responsibility, because when things go sideways I will not disappear into excuses.

The third is following through.

I have watched this single habit separate the students who earn real trust from the ones who don’t, more reliably than almost anything else. Do what you said you would do. Every time. Without being reminded. It sounds basic. But in real life, with everything competing for your attention at once, following through completely on your commitments is exactly where most people quietly fail. Not always on the big things, which everyone is watching. On the small things. The update you said you would send. The task you said you would finish before Friday. The time you said you would show up.

The student who develops the habit of following through on the small commitments builds a reputation for reliability that opens more doors than talent alone ever could. Trust is the real currency of leadership. Following through on the small promises is the specific behavior that deposits into that account, steadily, over time.

The fourth is going first.

This is where most leadership either happens or it doesn’t. The moment where something clearly needs to happen, nobody is certain who is supposed to act, and everyone is looking sideways waiting for someone else to move. Going first does not require dramatic bravery. It requires one specific, quiet decision: I am going to be the person who acts, even when I could just as easily wait.

Students who practice going first in small situations, even uncomfortable ones, build something important. They develop a tolerance for uncertainty that serves them in every high-stakes moment that follows. The muscle develops through use. When the moment that genuinely matters arrives, the muscle is already there.

These are not personality traits you either have or you don’t. They are habits. They are practiced and built and strengthened through repetition the same way any skill develops over time. The student who feels awkward going first today will feel steadier next week if they practice. The one who struggles with accountability will get better at it through consistent effort. Character is not fixed. It is built.

What I have seen consistently over years of working with young people is this: students who develop these habits before they carry any formal responsibility are the ones who handle real responsibility well when it eventually arrives. The capacity for leadership is not waiting inside you for the right title to unlock it. It is built through action, one decision at a time.

The young people I have worked with are not short on potential. What they are often short on is the conviction that their potential is already enough to act on right now. They are waiting for some external signal that they are ready. That signal rarely comes the way they are expecting it to.

The signal is not external. It comes from inside, when you make the decision to act before you feel completely ready, and then you see what happens. The confidence is not what causes the action. The action is what builds the confidence.

A lot of leadership content written for students operates at a level of abstraction that makes it hard to actually use. Big ideas. General encouragement. Inspiring language that sounds right in the moment and fades fast when the moment passes. Actions Earn Respect was written to be concrete. Specific behaviors, real situations, clear language about why the choices a student makes right now, before any formal role exists, are the decisions that shape the kind of leader they become.

The framework in this book applies everywhere. In a classroom. On a team. In a student organization. At home. In any setting where you are one person among others and something needs to happen and you are wondering whether you are the one who is supposed to do anything about it.

Whether you are a student trying to understand what leadership actually means in your daily life, or an educator looking for a resource that gives young people a practical starting point, this book was written for that exact conversation.

Actions Earn Respect is not about making leadership sound heroic. It is about making it accessible. Achievable. Real. It is about giving students the language and the habits to start leading where they are, with what they have, today.

If you are ready to trade waiting for action, you can find Actions Earn Respect on Amazon. If you work with students and you want a resource that gives them a clear, practical framework for taking initiative before any title arrives, this is the book to put in their hands. Read it, work through it, and use it as the starting point for the conversations that actually change how young people see themselves.

The student who leads today, before the title, before the permission, before they feel completely ready, is already the only kind of leader that has ever mattered.

She turned toward home. And saw the smoke.

Andy Corbley reported what came next in “12-yo Girl Named a Hero for Running into Burning Home to Save Brothers” for Good News Network, and I thought it was genuinely amazing. The left side of the family’s two-story house was on fire. The garage was burning. Flames were already climbing the wall. And a 12-year-old girl was standing in front of it, making the choice that was about to define that afternoon.

She ran to the door. She started screaming.

The Johnson family of six had only moved into that house a few months before. They were still settling in, still making the space their own. And one afternoon in early April, the garage caught fire.

Macy arrived home to find it already burning.

Here is the part that matters. She didn’t know for certain whether her brothers were inside. That information wasn’t available to her when she acted. What she had was the fire, the house, and three seconds to decide what kind of person she was going to be.

She moved toward the problem.

Her oldest brother was in the shower, getting ready for his shift at work. He had absolutely no idea anything was happening until he heard his little sister’s voice.

Her second-oldest brother was asleep. In his room above the garage.

Read that again. Above the garage. The one that was on fire. He was sleeping directly over the source of the blaze, and the smoke and heat were building below him. If Macy had waited, if she had hesitated for even a few more seconds, his situation could have turned into something no one would recover from.

She didn’t wait.

She screamed until they could hear her. Both brothers got out.

Firefighters from the Richmond Hill and Bryan County Fire Departments arrived and got the blaze under control before it consumed the entire structure. The cause of the fire was under investigation. The left side of the house was heavily damaged. A lot was lost.

But not the family.

“Hard as it is to know that we’ve lost almost everything, that we have a lot of memories, a lot of good things,” Macy’s mother Lisa Johnson said, “we have each other and we have God.”

They have each other. And they have each other, in large part, because a 12-year-old girl arrived home to find her house burning and made a choice in three seconds that changed the outcome of that day.

When something like this happens, people ask: “How did she know what to do?”

It’s a fair question. She’s 12. There was no plan, no training, no time to run through the options. She had a few seconds and a burning house and two brothers somewhere inside.

So where did that response come from?

Here’s what I think, and it’s the part I keep turning back to:

The decision Macy Johnson made when she saw that fire didn’t start when she saw the fire. It started long before that.

The person who runs toward a burning house, who throws herself at a front door and screams to wake people up, who doesn’t freeze or look around waiting for someone with more authority to show up, that person doesn’t get built in the moment of crisis. That person gets built in all the moments before it.

Think about what has to already be true about you for that response to come out automatically.

You have to be the kind of person who notices things. Not just what’s happening to you, but what’s happening around you. Who reads a situation and responds to it instead of waiting to be told what to do.

You have to be the kind of person who acts when acting is uncomfortable. Who speaks up when speaking up changes the mood in the room. Who doesn’t wait for perfect information or a safer moment. Who moves toward the problem instead of away from it.

You have to already believe, somewhere deep in your bones, that your action matters. That you stepping forward makes a difference. That the moment needs you.

Macy Johnson didn’t learn any of that on a Tuesday in April. She already had it. And when the moment required everything she had, she had it ready.

That’s not a gift reserved for certain people. That’s a character. And characters get built, slowly and consistently, in choices that look too small to matter.

It gets built in the moment you choose to tell the truth when you could have stayed quiet. In the moment you help someone carry something, literally or figuratively, when you could have looked away. In the moment you speak first when everyone is waiting for someone else to speak first. None of those moments feel like practice. They feel like Tuesday. But they add up.

Now step back from Richmond Hill for a minute and think about your own life.

You’re probably not going to walk home and find your house on fire. Most days are just days. Most moments are just moments.

But there are tests everywhere.

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The moment when a friend is being treated badly and everyone around you goes quiet. The moment in a group project when the whole thing is going the wrong direction and you’re the only one who sees it. The moment when someone needs to hear something hard and nobody wants to be the first to say it.

These aren’t emergencies. But they’re practice.

There’s a reason coaches talk about reps. A reason musicians practice scales before a performance. A reason athletes run the same drill hundreds of times before a single game. It’s not just about muscle memory. It’s about decision memory. The more you practice making a specific kind of choice, the more automatic that choice becomes when the moment arrives and you don’t have time to think.

What you do in the small moments is what shows up in the big ones. The instinct to act, to speak, to move toward the problem, that instinct doesn’t materialize out of nowhere when the stakes suddenly get high. It either shows up because you’ve been building it, or it doesn’t show up at all.

This is what strikes me most about the Macy Johnson story. It’s not the fire. It’s the character underneath the fire. The person she’d already been becoming, in all the ordinary moments, before any of this happened.

And here’s the detail worth noticing: she didn’t know for certain her brother was in the room above the garage. She didn’t have complete information. She acted before she had a full picture.

That’s not recklessness. That’s responsiveness. That’s what happens when your instinct to help is stronger than your instinct to stay back and assess.

Some people read a story like this and say, “I could never do that.” But I don’t think that’s true. What I think is truer is this: most people could do exactly what Macy did if they’d been making the same kinds of small choices, day after day, that build the kind of person who does it automatically.

You can become that person. Not in emergencies, but in the ordinary moments that don’t even feel like practice.

The hallway. The team. The lunch table. The classroom. Your family.

Where do you move toward something instead of away from it? Where do you say the thing instead of staying quiet? Where do you notice what’s happening and respond, instead of waiting for someone else to?

That’s not a metaphor. That’s how character actually works. You don’t wake up suddenly brave and decisive. You become that way in moments so small they don’t feel like training.

But they are. Every one of them.

The person who got off that school bus in Richmond Hill, Georgia, was already becoming someone. The fire just showed her, and everyone else, who that was.

There’s one more thing Lisa Johnson said that’s worth holding onto.

“She’s an incredible girl and I’m very proud of her.”

Of course she is. Of course she’s proud.

But I want to add something to that.

Macy Johnson almost certainly didn’t feel incredible in that moment. She probably felt scared. She probably felt the full weight of running toward something that every nerve in her body was telling her to run from.

The courage wasn’t the absence of fear.

The courage was moving anyway.

That’s available to you. All of it. The ability to move toward something hard, to act before you have complete information, to show up for someone before you fully understand the situation. That’s not reserved for a specific personality type or a specific kind of life experience.

It’s built. In small moments. Over time.

Every conversation where you chose honesty when dishonesty would have been easier. Every moment where you stayed when leaving would have been simpler. Every time you ran toward the door instead of away from it.

And the place to start building it is today.

If you want to go deeper on what it means to communicate with confidence, take real initiative, and build the kind of character that shows up before anyone asks for it, my book Actions Earn Respect is written for students who want to earn trust through consistent action. Not by waiting for the right moment to prove themselves. By being someone worth trusting in all the ordinary ones.

Who you become in the quiet moments is who shows up when it counts.

You don’t find out who you are in the emergencies.

You find out who you’ve already become.

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Not the headline. Not even the numbers. What stopped me was the image it created in my head: a 12-year-old kid named Nathan Yuill, sitting in a hospital in Anchorage, Alaska, fighting stage-4 non-Hodgkin lymphoma, and deciding that before his time there ended, he was going to do something for the children around him.

Andy Corbley wrote the piece for the Good News Network, published April 3, 2026, and I found it amazing. Not just because it has a feel-good ending. Because of what it says about who Nathan Yuill is. Because a story like this one isn’t really about Easter baskets. It’s about the choice a person makes when they’re the one who needs help.

Let me tell you what he actually did

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Nathan is 12 years old. He was diagnosed as a young child with stage-4 non-Hodgkin lymphoma, a cancer of the lymphatic system. It is a serious diagnosis at any age. In a child, it means long treatments, difficult side effects, and stretches of time that look nothing like a normal childhood. No school in the usual sense. Holidays that come and go while you’re in a ward somewhere. The world keeps spinning and you watch it from a different angle than most kids your age.

Nathan has been doing this for a long time. At the time this story was written, he was two treatment courses away from what his medical team anticipates will be his bell-ringing remission.

In pediatric oncology, the bell matters. It’s usually hung in a hallway near the nurses’ station, and when a patient completes treatment, they walk up and ring it. The staff gathers. There’s often cheering, sometimes singing, almost always tears. The good kind. It is the loudest moment in what is often a very quiet kind of suffering. It means: you made it through.

Nathan is close to that bell.

But before he got there, he did something. He looked around the ward. He saw the other kids. He noticed Easter coming. And somewhere in the middle of his own fight, he had an idea: what if every kid in this hospital could have an Easter basket?

He brought it to his mom, Dena Yuill. She wasn’t sure what to expect. He wanted to fundraise, get donations, put the baskets together. Nathan was not on the other side of his illness when he had this idea. He was still in the thick of it. But he wanted to do this, and she believed him, so she put the ask out to the community.

In 24 hours, the donations topped $2,000.

I want to sit with that number for a second. Not because two thousand dollars is a massive sum, but because of how fast it came back. When a 12-year-old fighting cancer decides he wants to make Easter better for the kids around him, people show up immediately. That’s part of what leadership does. It gives people somewhere to put their care. It creates motion where motion wasn’t happening before.

Nearby residents helped assemble the baskets. One hundred and twenty-four of them in total, colorful and full of presents. The carts that normally carry meals and supplies down the hallways of Providence Alaska Children’s Hospital were soon overflowing. Not with medical equipment. With Easter baskets.

On Good Friday, Nathan and the hospital staff went room to room. Ward by ward. Door by door. One basket for every child at Providence Alaska Children’s Hospital. One for every child at the nearby Alaska Native Medical Center. One hundred and twenty-four total.

Nicki Thurwanger, the Clinical Nurse Manager of Pediatrics at Providence, put into words what moments like these mean to the kids inside those walls.

“When the kiddos are here, every day becomes challenging and hard, and you look for the little things that make you be a kid,” she told Alaska News Source. “And so I think that’s what things like this give back is, yes, you’re in the hospital, but you’re a kid, and you get to still be a kid when you’re here.”

I read that and I thought about what it actually means to be a kid who lives in a hospital for a stretch of time. Not visits. Lives there. The days blur together. The hallways become familiar in a way you never wanted them to. Outside, the seasons change, and you track time differently in there: by treatment rounds, by blood counts, by the number of nights you’ve slept in that bed.

You are still a person. Still a child. Still someone who wants to be surprised on a holiday morning, who wants something colorful and specific sitting there when you wake up. But the normal machinery of childhood doesn’t always find you in a hospital ward.

Nathan made it find them. For 124 kids, Easter reached through those walls because he decided it would.

Dena Yuill, his mother, said something I keep returning to.

A mother watching her son battle cancer, and when she looks at him, what she feels most is that she wishes she had his strength. Not his spirit in some vague sense. Not just a positive attitude. His actual strength. The specific, earned kind of strength it takes to be in your situation and still turn your attention outward.

That is a particular kind of person.

Now I want to talk about what this means for you.

There is a version of leadership that gets a lot of attention. The person who has done well, who has time and resources and confidence, who shares some of it back. That’s real, and I’m not dismissing it. But it’s also the version that costs the least, because it comes from surplus. It comes from already having more than you need.

Nathan showed a different version. He was the one in need. He had every legitimate reason to turn inward and stay there. Nobody would have looked at a 12-year-old fighting stage-4 cancer and said: why aren’t you doing more for others? The logic of his situation made looking inward not just acceptable but obvious.

He did the opposite.

He asked: what can I do for the people around me?

Here’s what I think Nathan understood, maybe without naming it this way: leadership is not something you earn by getting your own situation under control first. It’s not a reward you receive for having things together. It’s a posture. A choice. A way of orienting yourself toward the people around you and asking: what do they need? What can I do? How do I make this better?

That posture is available to you right now. It doesn’t require a title. It doesn’t require resources. It doesn’t require your situation to be resolved first.

Here is the question I’d ask you to hold for a minute.

What are you carrying right now that gives you the easiest excuse not to show up for someone else? What’s the thing in your life, the stress or the hard season or the thing you’re waiting to get through, that would make it completely reasonable to focus only on yourself?

Because that’s exactly where Nathan-style leadership lives. Not on the other side of the hard thing. Right in the middle of it.

Look around wherever you are. Your classroom, your team, your neighborhood, your family. Is there someone who could use something? Not a grand gesture, just something. A check-in. A word that says you noticed. A small action that says: I saw you, and I wanted to do something about it.

That’s the basket. It doesn’t have to be 124 of them. It starts with one.

That’s also the part of the story that tends to get missed. Not the 124 baskets. Not the $2,000 in 24 hours. The moment before any of that, when Nathan Yuill looked around the ward from his own hospital bed and decided that what mattered most was what he could do for the kids in the rooms down the hall.

That’s the decision that makes everything else possible.

Nathan is going to ring that bell. When he does, the staff will gather and there will be noise and tears and everyone who has walked alongside him through treatment will be there. He deserves every second of it.

I just wanted you to know what he did before he got there.

If you want to go deeper into what it looks like to lead before you feel ready, to show up for others when your own situation is still hard, my book Actions Earn Respect is a resource I’d point you toward. It’s written for students who want to develop real leadership before they have any position or platform, and for anyone who wants to understand what it looks like to earn respect through how you treat the people around you, not through any title you hold.

Nathan Yuill is proof that the most powerful presence in any room is rarely the one demanding the most attention.

The guy behind the table is Alex Ward. He is 27, and he runs a hot sauce company called Chilli Charva with his older brother Tom, working out of Rotherham, England. The brand started at their childhood Sunday dinners, where the brothers drowned everything in Tabasco and dared each other to go bigger. Now they sell their own sauces at markets across the north of England, dressed in bucket hats and chain necklaces, leaning all the way into exactly who they are

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The brothers got serious in 2023, while backpacking through southeast Asia and tasting everything in sight. In December 2024 they launched at a Christmas market in the village of West Melton. Within a year, they won the grocery category at the national Young Market Trader of the Year competition. From a kitchen dare to a national title in twelve months.

Here is the part that got my attention. Alex is not doing this because it is trendy. He is doing it because the path he was supposed to take was not there.

Right now in the United Kingdom, almost a million young people between 16 and 24 are not in work, school, or training. That is one in eight. Youth unemployment sits around 16 percent, while for adults overall it is under 4. Entry-level jobs are getting scarce, and plenty of young people are sending out application after application and hearing nothing back.

So what do you do when nobody hands you a job? You could wait for the market to improve. You could keep refreshing the job boards. Or you could do what the young people in Sally Howard’s article did, and answer the question with a folding table.

There is a trade group in Britain called the National Market Traders Federation. It has been around since 1899. For the past ten years it has run a program called the Young Traders Market scheme, which gives free stall space to anyone between 16 and 30. No rent. No gatekeeper. Just a table, a spot in the square, and whatever you can make, bake, or build.

Joe Harrison, who works with the federation, calls the stalls “ideal business incubators.” But his simpler line is the one that matters. He loves watching shy traders “blossom in confidence” once they start talking to customers.

Hold onto that, because it is the whole story.

Take Jayden Roberts. He is 19, from the West Midlands, and he learned to screen print shirts while he was still in school. In 2024 he brought his designs to the Walsall Makers Market and launched his own clothing brand, Purgatory Clothing. His word for those first sales? “Nerve-wracking.”

Then something shifted. In his own words: “I’ve made this, I’ve printed this, and now I’m selling this and I should be proper proud.”

Notice what he did not say. He did not say someone told him to be proud. He did not say he got a grade or a certificate. The pride showed up on its own, in public, while he handed a stranger something he made with his own hands. His grandfather sold watches at markets in the 80s and 90s, and Jayden figures the trade is in his blood. Maybe so. But the confidence part is not inherited. He earned that at the table.

Or take Shanice Palmer from Croydon. During the pandemic she lost her job as an administrator, and her plan disappeared overnight. She had been making scented candles as a hobby for ages, so on a whim she applied for a stall at Greenwich Market in London.

That whim became a fragrance brand called Kurroc. In 2023 she was named Young Market Trader of the Year for retail, and the win came with a six-month rent-free lease in Doncaster, 200 miles north of home. She packed up and moved. Today she runs a permanent stall there.

She describes the stall as a live testing lab. Customers tell her what they want in real time, face to face. Her reed diffusers, now one of her most successful lines, exist because shoppers at her stall kept suggesting them. She is honest about the hard days too. When the rain is coming down on a freezing morning and you wore the wrong clothes, she says, it takes a lot of coffee to keep smiling.

Amy Bennett was a sustainability student in Leeds when lockdown wiped out the part-time jobs she was counting on. So she baked cookies and sold them to other students. Her boyfriend Diego delivered them by bicycle. When lockdown eased, they took the cookies to market stalls and crisscrossed Yorkshire from Keighley to Hull. In 2023 they opened a brick and mortar shop in Leeds called Chunk Bakery. They now employ ten people.

And the biggest thing she learned from all those markets? Customers do not just want a tasty product. They want an experience. She learned that standing behind a table in the cold, not sitting in a lecture hall.

The article keeps going. Bernadette Fong was working as a physio when she started spinning candyfloss, what we call cotton candy, into cartoon animals at a Christmas market. A video of her shaping a little yellow duck went viral, and now her business, Cloud Nine Candyfloss Art, runs through the summer festival season while she trains other sugar spinners so it can grow. A hobby, a table, a leap.

Meanwhile the Ward brothers keep sharpening their craft. One of their barbecue sauces originally used a synthetic smoke flavor. Customers at the stall told them straight that it was not working. So the brothers rebuilt the recipe with natural hickory instead. That is the gift of the stall: feedback arrives instantly, unfiltered, and free. Alex still works construction shifts to pay for a professional kitchen the brothers are building on land their grandparents once owned. Those grandparents ran a fruit and veg shop in Rotherham. Three generations, same town, same hustle.

Now I want to slow down, because this story is not really about hot sauce or candles or cookies.

It is about the order in which confidence arrives.

Most of us get the order backwards. We assume confidence comes first and action comes second. We tell ourselves we will raise our hand once we feel ready. We will start the club, enter the contest, audition for the part, once the nerves calm down. So we wait. And the nerves never calm down, because nerves do not settle in the waiting. They settle in the doing.

You see the backwards order in school all the time. The kid who will not try out because he might not make the team. The student with a business idea in her notes app that never leaves the notes app. The group project where everyone waits for someone else to go first. Waiting feels safe. It is actually slow-motion quitting.

Every trader in this story was scared at the start. Jayden called it nerve-wracking. Shanice applied on a whim, which is usually the word we use for a decision we make before fear can talk us out of it. None of them felt ready. They set up the table anyway. The confidence showed up later, somewhere between the first awkward hello and the hundredth sale.

There is no title on a folding table. No corner office, no name plate, no logo budget. Just you, your work, and whoever stops to look. Nobody at a market cares what grade you got. They care whether the cookie is good and whether you look them in the eye. Which means everything you earn there, you actually earned.

That is not a business lesson. That is a leadership lesson. Leadership is mostly the willingness to act before you feel qualified, and to let honest feedback shape you instead of flatten you.

So here is my question for you. What is your stall?

You probably do not live near a British market square. You do not need to. A stall is anything that puts your work and your name in front of real people. A bake sale you organize instead of just attending. A car wash fundraiser you run from start to finish. Your art on a table at the community fair. A tutoring flyer with your name and number on it. A club you pitch to a teacher instead of waiting for someone else to start it. A lawn care or pet sitting service in your neighborhood with you as the founder, the worker, and the customer service department all at once.

The product matters less than the posture. What changes you is standing behind something you made, looking a stranger in the eye, and finding out what happens next.

And if a public table feels like too much for a first step, shrink it. Sell to your own street. Teach one neighbor kid to shoot free throws. Bake for one team fundraiser. The traders in this story did not start with festivals and storefronts. They started with one table, one morning, one stranger willing to stop.

Some days it will rain. Some people will walk right past your table without slowing down. A few kids will taste your hot sauce and sprint. That is fine. The traders in this story would tell you the rough days teach you more than the easy ones.

And notice one last thing. The federation gave these young people free space, but it could not give them courage. Nobody can give you that. The space is only an invitation. The courage is the part you bring.

One in eight young people in Britain is sitting in the gap between school and work right now, waiting for a door to open. The traders in Sally Howard’s article stopped waiting and built their own doorway out of a folding table. Whatever country you live in, whatever your age, that option exists for you too. The door you are waiting for might just be a table.

If the confidence part feels out of reach from where you are standing, that is exactly why I wrote Actions Earn Respect. It is a practical guide for students who want to build real confidence the way these traders did, through small, visible actions in front of real people, starting well before you feel ready. You can find it on Amazon.

Your stall is out there. Go set it up.

His name is Ribal Zebian, and I read about him in an Upworthy article called “Ontario teen says he’ll live in ‘modular home’ invention for a year to prove it can end homelessness” written by Erik Barnes. I thought it was fantastic. Not just because the invention is clever, although it is. Because of what this young man was willing to put on the line to prove his idea deserves to exist

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Here’s the setup. Zebian is an engineering student at Western University in London, Ontario. Like a lot of cities right now, London is wrestling with two problems at once. More people are living without housing. And housing itself keeps getting more expensive.

Most of us see that and feel something. We shake our heads at the tents under the overpass. We complain about rent at dinner. Then we go on with our lives, because the problem feels too big to touch.

Zebian went home and started drawing.

What he came up with is a modular home built from fiberglass panels and an insulated foam core. Not a shed. Not a box with a tarp roof. A real dwelling, designed so it can be assembled in a single day.

“With fiberglass you can make extravagant molds, and you can replicate those,” he told CTV News. “It can be duplicated. And for our roofing system, we’re not using the traditional truss method. We’re using actually an insulated core PET foam that supports the structure and structural integrity of the roof.”

Translation for those of us who are not engineering students: you can pour the design once and repeat it fast, and the roof holds itself up without the lumber skeleton a normal house needs. Speed and strength in one package.

But here’s the detail that tells you who this young man is. He refused to make it ugly.

“Essentially, what I’m trying to do is bring a home to the public that could be built in one day, is affordable, and still carries some architecturally striking features,” he told the London Free Press. “We don’t want to be bringing a house to Canadians that is just boxy and that not much thought was put into it.”

Think about who that design choice is for. He’s building for people who have spent months or years being treated like a problem to manage. And his position is that they deserve a home somebody actually cared about. That’s not an engineering decision. That’s a respect decision.

Now, if this were the whole story, it would already be worth telling. A teenager sees suffering in his city and designs something real in response. But it’s not the whole story. It’s not even the best part.

Because in May 2026, Zebian moved in.

Into his own prototype. For a full year.

“We want to see if we can make it through all four seasons, summer, winter, spring, and fall,” he said. “But that’s not the only thing. When you live in something that long and use it, you can notice every single mistake and error, and you can optimize for the best experience.”

He’s not spending a weekend in it for a photo op. He’s signing up for an Ontario winter inside a structure he designed himself. January nights in that part of Canada are no joke. The wind comes off the lakes and finds every gap in a wall. If there’s a flaw in his insulation, he won’t read about it in a report. He’ll feel it at two in the morning.

And that’s exactly the point. He wants to feel it.

His plan is to live in the home, log every weakness, fix what fails, and only then take it to manufacturers. He’s turning himself into the test case so that nobody else has to be.

One more thing worth knowing about him. This isn’t his first build. A year earlier, Zebian made headlines for constructing an electric car out of wood, a project that earned him a $120,000 scholarship.

I want to pause on that wooden car, because it’s easy to skim past. Building an electric car out of wood sounds like a stunt until you understand what it signals. It says this is a person who hears “that’s not how it’s done” as a starting line. The scholarship committee didn’t hand him $120,000 for being smart. Plenty of people are smart. They funded a track record.

So there’s a pattern here. Some people collect ideas. Zebian converts them. Idea, build, test, repeat. The scholarship didn’t make him a builder. The building earned him the scholarship.

Now here’s the leadership lesson, and I want to give it to you as plainly as I can.

You earn trust in your ideas by carrying the risk yourself first.

Notice everything Zebian didn’t do. He didn’t start an online petition demanding someone else fix housing. He didn’t wait until he had a degree, a company, or permission. He didn’t stand outside the problem and critique it. He built his answer, and then he volunteered his own comfort, his own winter, his own year, as the proof.

When he finally walks into a manufacturer’s office, he won’t be carrying a theory. He’ll be carrying 365 nights of evidence. Every question they ask, he’ll have lived the answer. Try arguing with that.

Compare that to how most ideas get pitched. We polish the language. We anticipate objections. We work hard to sound right. Zebian skipped the sounding and went straight to the being. There’s no version of “but will it really work?” that survives a person standing in front of you who spent a year finding out.

And I want to be clear about something, because it matters for every student reading this who feels too young, too broke, or too unknown to lead anything. Zebian has no title in the housing world. No office. No staff. He’s a teenager with a drafting table and a stubborn streak. The housing crisis did not ask for his opinion. He gave it anyway, in fiberglass. Authority didn’t come first. Action did.

Here’s what this looks like in your world, because I know you’re probably not building houses.

If you think your club should run meetings differently, run yours that way first and let people watch the results. If you believe your team needs more accountability, be the first one to own a mistake out loud. If you’ve been telling your friends somebody should start a study group, a cleanup crew, a fundraiser, then build the smallest real version of it this week and put yourself in it.

Or take it smaller still. If you tell a teammate you’ve got their back, show up at the moment it’s inconvenient. If you say a plan will work, attach your own name and your own Saturday to it. The size of the gesture matters less than the direction of the risk. It has to land on you before it lands on anyone else.

Use your own product. Follow your own advice. Eat your own cooking. Whatever you’re asking other people to believe in, you go first.

Because here’s the truth about credibility, and it doesn’t matter whether you’re 18 or 58. People don’t trust ideas. They trust evidence that a person stood behind their idea when it cost them something.

There’s a second layer to what Zebian is doing, and I think it’s the harder one.

Living in your idea means letting it be wrong, in front of you, every single day.

He said it himself. The whole point of the year is to notice every mistake and error. He is deliberately moving into a building so its flaws can find him. Most of us do the opposite with our ideas. We protect them. We avoid the feedback that might bruise them. We’d rather keep an idea perfect and untested than real and revised.

Zebian moved into his feedback.

That’s a kind of humility you don’t see often, especially in someone with headlines and scholarship money behind him. He’s also been honest about the ceiling of his own invention. He has said openly that modular homes won’t solve homelessness or the housing crisis on their own. He sees them as an affordable bridge, a way to get people shelter while bigger policy problems get worked out.

An 18-year-old with a spotlight on him, choosing to undersell. Most people in that position inflate. He shrinks the claim down to exactly what he can prove, and then sets out to prove it. That’s integrity doing quiet work.

There’s also a lesson in where he aimed. He didn’t pick a flashy problem. Homelessness is slow, complicated, unglamorous work that most people scroll past. He picked it because it was in front of him, in his own city, on streets he actually walks. Leaders don’t go looking for impressive problems. They take the ones within reach and refuse to look away.

I keep coming back to one image. Some night this coming January, in a small fiberglass home in London, Ontario, the temperature is going to drop hard. The wind is going to test that roof he’s so proud of. And a young man is going to lie there in the dark and find out whether his work does what he promised.

Win or lose, he’ll wake up knowing something most people never learn about their own ideas: the truth.

Most of us never get that kind of clarity, because we never put ourselves in a position to receive it. We keep our ideas at arm’s length, safely hypothetical. Hypothetical ideas can’t fail. They also can’t matter.

And whatever Zebian builds next, every person who hears about it will remember that this is the guy who lived in his last one. That reputation is permanent now. He bought it with a year of his life, and nobody can take it from him.

That’s the trade young leaders so often miss. Comfort now, or credibility forever. Zebian picked the one that compounds.

This is the exact ground I cover in my book, Actions Earn Respect. It was written for students who are tired of being told they’re “too young” to be taken seriously, and it walks through how to build the kind of credibility that doesn’t need a title attached. If Zebian’s story lit something up in you, the book will show you how to act on it right where you are, with what you have.

Anyone can pitch an idea. Leaders move in.

So picture this instead. A room full of high school students from different schools, different neighborhoods, different backgrounds, sitting around a table with twenty-eight thousand dollars to give away. Real money. Real organizations waiting on their decision. And the adults in the room are not there to make the call. They are there to watch the students make it.

That is exactly what happened in the Quad Cities this spring. I read about it in a story called “Teen philanthropy group grants $28,000 to local nonprofits” by Will Van Camp, published by the Quad Cities Community Foundation, and I thought it was fantastic. It is one of the clearest pictures I have seen in a long time of what happens when adults stop talking about youth leadership and actually hand young people the wheel.

Here is the setup.

For more than twenty years, the foundation has run a program called Teens for Tomorrow. High school students from across the region join and spend the year learning how philanthropy works from the inside. Not in a classroom exercise. In real life, with real stakes.

This year, those students directed $28,000 in grants to seven nonprofits serving their community.

But the number is not the story. The process is the story.

These students did not just skim a list and vote for the names that sounded nice. They reviewed actual grant applications. They sat down with nonprofit leaders and asked questions. They talked through the hardest problems in their region, things like housing insecurity, food access, and support for people in vulnerable situations.

And somewhere in the middle of all that, they ran into a truth every leader eventually faces.

This year, the somebody was them.

I want you to sit in that room for a moment. Picture seven strong applications spread across the table, every one of them representing real people doing real good. Picture students from different schools, who might never have crossed paths otherwise, debating where a few thousand dollars would do the most. Someone argues for the summer program. Someone else points to the youth shelter. Nobody gets to say all of the above.

That tension is not a flaw in the program. That tension is the program. Learning to choose carefully, out loud, with other people, when the choice has weight, is one of the rarest skills a young person can build.

Here is the detail in the story that impressed me most. The students did not stop at reading applications. They went and met the people on the other side of the paperwork.

Mau Sanchez Carmona is a senior at Pleasant Valley High School and a two-year participant in the program. He said the meetings changed everything about how the group decided.

“We met with nonprofit leaders as well as people being served by the organization,” Mau said. “Hearing directly from someone who had been helped made the impact real and impacted how our group made decisions.”

There is a lot packed into that one quote.

A grant application is paper. A budget is numbers. But a person sitting across from you, telling you what a food pantry or a safe place to sleep actually meant for their family, is neither of those things. That is reality. And once you have seen reality, you make decisions differently.

Most adults who control budgets never do what these teenagers did. They never get close enough to the people their decisions touch. These students got close on purpose. Then they decided.

The students also did something else that caught my attention. They helped raise money themselves.

With guidance from foundation staff, they met with donors and talked about local needs, local values, and what could change with the right support. Those conversations helped bring in an additional $18,000 to support the grantmaking.

So they were not just spending someone else’s money. They were out there making the case, person to person, for why the work mattered. That is a skill most people do not build until well into adulthood, if they ever build it at all.

Sue Hafkemeyer, the president and CEO of the Quad Cities Community Foundation, summed up the whole thing in one line.

“The Teens for Tomorrow Program shows what’s possible when young people are trusted with meaningful responsibility,” she said. “These students approached the work with empathy, curiosity, and a real commitment to understanding the needs of our region.”

Trusted with meaningful responsibility. Hold on to that phrase, because we are coming back to it.

First, look at where the money actually went, because the choices tell you something about how seriously these students took the job.

They gave $4,500 to Tapestry Farms, which will employ refugee teens in work that feeds the community. They gave $5,000 to Hope at the BRICK House to drive a summer program for underserved children. They gave $4,000 to Project NOW for a program sheltering people without housing, and another $4,000 to Humility Homes and Services for a youth homelessness program.

They supported Friendly House youth services with $4,000, NEST Cafe with $3,500, and Bethany for Children & Families with $3,000.

Look at the pattern. Refugee teens. Kids who need a summer program. Young people without a place to sleep. These students consistently put money toward people their own age who are carrying loads most of us never see.

They did not chase whatever was flashy. They funded what was needed. That is judgment, and judgment is the part of leadership nobody can fake.

Now let me tell you why this story belongs in The Leadership Lab.

We tend to talk about leadership like it is a position you get promoted into someday. Captain. President. Manager. Some title that arrives with a certificate and a handshake, usually years from now.

This story flips that completely.

Nobody in that room had a title that mattered. They were high school students. What they had instead was something better: an adult who looked at them and said, this is real, and we trust you with it.

And here is the part I want every young person to catch. The trust did not come first. The seriousness came first.

Those students showed up. They read the applications. They asked hard questions. They listened to people whose lives looked nothing like their own. They treated a responsibility like it deserved their full attention, and because they did, the responsibility grew.

That is how it works everywhere, for everyone, at every age.

Leadership is not a prize you win someday. It is a pattern you build right now, in how you handle whatever has been placed in your hands today, even when it feels small.

Maybe nobody is handing you $28,000 this week. Fine. But somebody is handing you something.

A group project where everyone else is coasting. A younger sibling who watches what you do. A team, a shift at work, a club budget of forty dollars, a friend going through something heavy. Every one of those is a grant application with your name on the review committee.

The question is the same one those Quad Cities students faced: will you treat it like it is real?

I can already hear the objection. My school does not have a program like this. Nobody is offering me a seat at any table. Fair enough. Then build a smaller table. Three friends and a weekend service project is a table. Asking your student government where last year’s fundraiser money actually went is a table. Offering to organize the supply closet your coach has been ignoring since September is, believe it or not, a table.

Small tables lead to bigger ones. They always have.

Because here is what I have learned, both in my own life and from watching young people rise. Adults are constantly scanning for the kid who treats small things like they matter. Teachers notice. Coaches notice. Employers notice. The first person to trust you with meaningful responsibility is usually watching how you handle the small stuff first.

Mau is graduating this year, and what he said about leaving the program might be my favorite part of the entire story.

“What I’ll take with me is the belief that we can collectively make a difference,” he said. “It’s easy to feel overwhelmed, especially as a young person, and feel like you can’t make a difference. This program proved we can make a difference.”

Notice what he did not say. He did not say the program taught him about nonprofit budgets or grant cycles, even though it surely did. He said it proved something to him. It replaced a feeling of being overwhelmed with evidence that he and his peers could move the needle.

That is what real responsibility does. It does not just teach you skills. It changes what you believe you are capable of.

And belief built on evidence is sturdy. Nobody can talk Mau out of it now, because he was in the room. He read the applications. He met the people. He watched the grants go out the door and knew his voice helped send them.

No motivational poster on earth can compete with that.

So here is my challenge to you, and it comes in two parts.

If you are a young person reading this, stop waiting for someone to declare you a leader. Find the nearest real responsibility and treat it like it is worth your best. Volunteer to manage something concrete. Ask the questions nobody else is asking. Get close to the people affected by the decisions around you, because closeness changes judgment, and judgment is the whole game.

And if you are an adult, ask yourself an uncomfortable question. When was the last time you trusted a young person with something that actually mattered? Not busywork. Not a token seat at the table. Something real, with stakes, where their decision counts.

The Quad Cities Community Foundation has been running this experiment for more than twenty years, and the results keep coming back the same. Trust young people with meaningful responsibility, and they respond with empathy, curiosity, and care.

The students were always capable. The adults just finally built the room that let everyone see it.

If this story lit something up in you, and you want to keep building that kind of purpose before anyone hands you a title, my book Actions Earn Respect was written for exactly this moment in your life. It is a practical guide for students who want to lead through what they do, starting now, with whatever is already in front of them. You can find it on Amazon.

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I found this story in Teen Creates App to Help Homeless People Find Services in Their Area posted by Inspire More, with no byline listed. The article describes how a high school student developed a mobile application that uses GPS technology and a comprehensive database to help homeless individuals locate shelters, food banks, medical clinics, and other essential services in real-time. It's a straightforward idea, but the real story is about what happens inside a person when they decide to turn empathy into action.

That decision is harder than it sounds. When you first notice a problem that big and that real, your brain does something interesting. It can go two directions. One direction is to feel overwhelmed and do nothing because the problem seems too large. The other direction is to think small and specific: what one thing could I actually build that would help?

This teen chose the second path. Building an app isn't easy. You need to know how to code or learn how to code. You need to understand databases. You need to research what services actually exist in your community. You need to test it. You need to think about how someone experiencing homelessness might actually use it. None of that is simple, especially when you're juggling school, homework, and a social life like any other high school student.

But here's what I notice about how this teenager moved forward. They didn't wait to be perfect before starting. They didn't wait until they were older or had more experience or had taken a special class. They looked at what they could do right now, with what they already had access to or could learn, and they started.

That's initiative. Not the corporate version you read about in a mission statement. Real initiative is noticing something broken and deciding that your hands are the ones that are going to try to fix it.

Initiative also requires something else: you have to be willing to fail or look foolish. You have to be willing to build something imperfect and release it anyway because even an imperfect solution is better than no solution. This teen put work into something that most of their classmates might not have noticed or cared about. That takes a kind of quiet courage.

There's also responsibility built into this choice. Once you create something that helps people, you can't just abandon it. You have to maintain it, update it, make sure the information stays current and accurate. A shelter that closed six months ago shouldn't still be showing up in the app, or someone desperate for help will show up at a place that doesn't exist. That's not a small detail. That's the difference between helping and hurting.

So this teenager didn't just build the app and call it done. They had to think about long-term responsibility. They had to think about whether they were going to keep updating it, or whether they were going to find another way to make sure the information stayed reliable. That's the kind of thinking that separates a real solution from a feel-good project.

Here's what strikes me most about this story, though. This student didn't do this for recognition or a grade or a college essay. They did it because they saw a problem and believed they could help fix it. Everything else was secondary.

That matters in your world right now, wherever you are. You probably have problems you see every single day that adults don't seem to notice or care about. Maybe it's the way certain students feel left out at lunch. Maybe it's the fact that your school's heating system doesn't work right and half the hallways are freezing in winter. Maybe it's a friend who's struggling and everyone's just pretending not to notice. Maybe it's a park in your neighborhood that's been broken for years and nobody's doing anything about it.

The question isn't whether you're old enough or experienced enough or whether it's someone else's job to fix it. The question is: are you willing to see it, take it seriously, and try something?

This teen could have said, "I'm just a high school student. Homelessness is a massive social problem. It's not my job." That would have been reasonable. No one would have blamed them. But instead, they asked a different question: "What if I'm the only person who can build this particular solution, and what if I don't try?"

You don't have to solve homelessness. You don't have to cure disease or fix the government. You just have to notice something that's broken in your immediate circle and ask yourself if you're capable of doing something about it. Maybe you are. Maybe the answer is yes.

When you start thinking like this, something shifts inside you. You stop waiting for permission. You stop waiting for someone else to care more than you do. You stop treating problems like they're someone else's responsibility. You become a person who notices and acts.

That's what this teenager did. They moved from awareness to action. They moved from "this is sad" to "I'm going to do something about this." And they did it while they were still in high school, still learning, still figuring out who they were.

If you're looking for a guide on how to become this kind of person, someone who sees a need and moves toward it instead of away from it, there's a book called Actions Earn Respect by Alan J. Klingensmith. It's about how young people lead by actually doing things, not by talking about doing things. By making real choices that help real people, not by making promises they don't keep.

Here's the simple truth: the world doesn't need more sympathy for problems. It needs more people who are willing to get their hands dirty and try to fix something.

Start small. Start now. Start with something only you can do.

A boardroom full of senior executives is reviewing Q2 results. The slides are polished. The data is impressive. The AI tools they rolled out over the last 18 months are running across every department. And yet, the engagement scores are flat, the top talent keep leaving, and the productivity gains everyone promised are still somewhere off in the distance.

The consultants are confused. The executives are frustrated. And the employees? They stopped being surprised a long time ago.

This is not a hypothetical. According to IMD Business School’s breakdown of the leadership trends dominating 2026, the disconnect between AI investment and actual execution is one of the defining challenges leaders face right now. McKinsey puts the potential productivity value of AI at $4.4 trillion. Ninety-two percent of organizations say they plan to increase their AI investment over the next three years.

Ninety-two percent.

And yet, something is fundamentally not working. The money is going in. The results are not coming out. And almost nobody in a leadership position wants to say the quiet part loud.

The technology is fine. The leadership is the problem.

The Number Nobody Is Talking About

Here is a statistic that should be keeping leaders up at night, and for some reason is not getting nearly the attention it deserves.

Seventy-one percent of U.S. employees say they are satisfied at work. On the surface, that sounds like good news. But read the next line. Nearly one in five say they feel neutral.

Not satisfied. Not engaged. Not invested. Neutral.

Think about what neutral actually means. Neutral is the employee who shows up every day, does exactly what is asked of them, and goes home. Neutral is the person who sees a problem developing and does not flag it, because they have stopped caring enough to get involved. Neutral is the professional who was once excited about their work and somewhere along the way quietly decided it was not worth the energy.

Neutral is not a disengagement crisis you can point to on a chart and declare an emergency. It is quieter than that. It is the slow leak in your organization that you do not notice until the tank is empty.

Here is the uncomfortable truth: you can add ten new AI tools to a neutral workforce and all you have done is make average output happen faster. Efficiency is not the same thing as excellence. Speed is not the same thing as results. And technology does not solve a people problem.

The Trust Gap That Is Actually Costing You

IMD identifies trust as a critical challenge for leaders in 2026. That is the academic, polished way of saying that a lot of people do not fully believe in the people who are supposed to be leading them.

This is not a new problem. It is a consistent one. And every year, organizations spend billions on leadership training, culture initiatives, and engagement programs, and the numbers barely move. The reason is simple: most of those initiatives are built around words, not actions.

The mission statement does not build trust. The all-hands meeting does not build trust. The company values posted on the break room wall and the Slack channel full of leadership quotes definitely do not build trust.

Trust is built one action at a time. It is built when a leader does what they said they were going to do. It is built when a manager actually follows up after a hard conversation instead of moving on and pretending it did not happen. It is built when an executive makes a decision that costs them something because it was the right thing to do for their team.

That is the whole premise of Actions Earn Respect. Not as a slogan, but as a leadership operating system. Words set expectations. Actions build reputations. And people are watching what you do far more carefully than they are listening to what you say.

The organizations that are winning right now are not the ones with the biggest AI budgets. They are the ones where people actually want to show up and do their best work, because they believe in the person leading them.

Five Things Leaders Are Getting Wrong Right Now

None of this is complicated. But most leaders are still getting it wrong in the same five predictable ways.

1. Treating technology as a substitute for leadership.

AI is a tool. A powerful one. But it does not manage people. It does not inspire a team that has lost confidence in the direction they are heading. It does not repair a broken relationship between a manager and a direct report. When you lead with tools before leading with yourself, people notice. And they draw conclusions about what you actually think your job is.

2. Running surveys instead of having conversations.

Engagement surveys have their place. But a three-point Likert scale asking someone if they feel valued is not the same as sitting down with them and actually asking. The leaders who know what is really happening in their organizations are the ones who are in conversation with their people, not just collecting data about them. Get out of the dashboard and into the room.

3. Being unpredictable.

The single biggest trust killer in any organization is inconsistency. When people cannot predict how you are going to show up, they stop trusting you, because trust requires a foundation of reliability. You do not have to be perfect. You just have to be consistent. People can adapt to a leader who is demanding if that leader is also fair and predictable. What they cannot adapt to is a leader who is kind on Monday and unreasonable on Thursday with no explanation.

4. Confusing visible busyness with effective leadership.

A lot of leaders are very busy doing things that have nothing to do with actually leading. They are in back-to-back meetings. They are reviewing reports. They are strategizing about strategy. Meanwhile, the people on their teams are unclear on priorities, starved for real feedback, and quietly updating their resumes. Leadership is not about how full your calendar is. It is about the impact you have on the people who report to you.

5. Holding others to standards they do not hold themselves to.

This one will end your credibility faster than almost anything else. The moment your team sees you exempt yourself from the expectations you have set for them, the trust account goes to zero. Show up on time to your own meetings. Do the hard things you are asking them to do. Admit when you are wrong. Accountability is not just a value you post on a slide. It is something you model every single day.

What It Actually Takes in 2026

None of the things I am about to say are revolutionary. You have probably heard versions of them before. The problem is not that leaders do not know these things. The problem is that they know them and are not doing them consistently.

Start with your neutral employees. You know who they are. Instead of waiting for their annual review to address it, schedule a real conversation this week. Not a check-in disguised as feedback. A direct conversation where you ask them what has changed, what is getting in their way, and what would make the work meaningful again. Then do something with what they tell you. That is the part most leaders skip.

Audit your own consistency. Look back at the last 30 days and ask yourself: did I do what I said I was going to do? Not most of it. All of it. Where did I fall short? What did I say I would follow up on and did not? The people on your team remember every single one of those moments, even when you have forgotten them.

Get your AI implementation in order. This is not an argument against technology. If you are not building AI fluency into your leadership approach in 2026, you are already behind. But the sequence matters. Lead the people first. Then leverage the tools. Not the other way around.

Choose one thing you have been avoiding. Every leader has something they know they should address and keep pushing off because it is uncomfortable. A conversation that needs to happen. A decision that needs to be made. A person who needs direct feedback. Avoidance has a compounding cost. Whatever you are putting off, put it on your calendar for this week.

The Bottom Line

Here is what the data from 2026 is actually telling you, stripped of all the business school language.

Your people are watching. They are watching whether you follow through. They are watching whether you are consistent. They are watching whether the things you say in the all-hands meeting line up with what you do on a Tuesday at 4pm when nobody is paying attention.

The biggest leadership challenge this year is not an AI problem. It is not a productivity problem. It is not a technology adoption problem. It is a trust problem. And trust is not something you can buy with a software subscription or solve with a training program.

You earn it one action at a time. Every day. With every decision. In every interaction.

That is not a 2026 trend. That is not a leadership framework or a methodology or a certification. That is just the truth about what it takes to lead people well. And the leaders who understand that are the ones who will still be standing when the tools change again.

Actions earn respect. They always have. They always will.

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We talk constantly about preparing students for leadership. We run clubs and competitions and service projects. We hand out certificates for it. But then we go right back to making every real decision for students, without asking them, about their school, their hallways, their school day, and their lunch tables.

We tell them leadership matters. And then we model something that looks a lot like being managed.

There’s a story out today that I want to sit with. Anna Patton wrote it for Positive News, and it’s called “The schools giving children a say in how they are run.” On the surface, it’s about a charity in the UK called Smart School Councils. But underneath that, it’s about something much more interesting: what actually happens to kids when adults stop pretending to listen and start actually listening.

At Halling Primary School in Kent, England, a nine-year-old named Jess has a job title. Her official role is suggestion box leader and staff liaison officer. She and her teammates on the school’s communications team, a group of year five and year six pupils, collect ideas from their classmates, organize them, and present them to educators. They have run this process. They came up with the structure. Adults didn’t hand it to them already built.

I keep thinking about that job title. Suggestion box leader and staff liaison officer. For a nine-year-old, that’s not a participation trophy. That’s a real function. Someone has to do that job. Jess does it.

And here’s the thing about Jess that the article doesn’t need to spell out but that I want to name: she probably didn’t feel ready for it when she started either.

Nobody does.

Greg Sanderson founded Smart School Councils in 2014. He’s a former teacher who grew up working class, went to a state school, and then arrived at university surrounded by students from private schools who carried themselves with a ease that confused and intimidated him. It took him a while to figure out why. It wasn’t intelligence. It wasn’t connections, though those helped too. It was practice. They had spent years speaking up, being heard, making a case, and watching their words actually change something. He hadn’t gotten that practice. And he noticed it.

So he built a structure to give it to kids earlier.

The way Smart School Councils works is pretty simple. Schools access a platform with thousands of discussion questions tied to real issues, school-based and beyond, adapted for every age group. Weekly class meetings, about fifteen minutes long, let students discuss, debate, propose ideas, and document their findings. Then those findings go somewhere. Teachers respond. Changes happen. The meetings aren’t performative. The questions aren’t fake.

And the results are not small. Before schools start using the program, about 36 percent of students feel listened to. After, that number jumps to nearly 90 percent. Ninety percent of teachers report that kids’ listening and speaking skills improve. At Kells Lane Primary in Gateshead, teacher Rachel Gray describes watching her students actually respond to each other’s ideas rather than just waiting to talk. That’s a different kind of thinking. That’s the beginning of something.

What I want to slow down on, though, is a moment in the article that almost gets passed over.

Ten-year-old Nia is on Halling Primary’s communications team. She talks about what it feels like to stand up and speak: “Not everyone likes to be the one to go up in front of everyone. I get that, because it is kind of scary.”

She gets it. Because it was scary for her too.

But she keeps going. She encourages other kids to try. “Sometimes we have to push them to their limits,” she says.

That is leadership. Not the definition from a textbook. The actual thing. A ten-year-old who knows what fear feels like in that moment, who has felt it herself, and who uses that understanding to help someone else move through it anyway.

Most adults I know struggle to do that.

The fear of speaking up is real at every age. It doesn’t disappear when you turn eighteen or twenty-five or forty. The voice in your head that says, “Maybe no one will care,” or “What if I say the wrong thing,” or “Maybe this isn’t my place,” never fully goes quiet. What changes, for people who lead well, is the relationship with that voice. They stop waiting for it to leave. They learn to move while it’s still talking.

Nia is learning that at ten. Not from a motivational poster. From doing it.

Her teammate Abi, also ten, says something at the end of the article that I want to put up on a wall somewhere:

There is a lot of wisdom packed into two sentences from a ten-year-old.

Because here’s what she’s figured out that some people never do: the cost of not speaking is almost always higher than the cost of speaking. When you swallow what needs to be said, you carry it. It sits there. You wonder what would have happened. You replay the moment you didn’t say anything and imagine what would have changed if you had.

Speaking out, even imperfectly, even nervously, resolves something. It creates a before and after. There is no looking back because you actually did the thing instead of watching the moment pass.

Abi figured that out from a fifteen-minute school meeting.

Let me connect this to your world for a second, because this isn’t just a story about elementary schools in England.

Think about your school, your team, your family, your friend group. Think about the decisions that get made every week that affect you. How often do you actually say what you think? How often do you have an idea and keep it to yourself because you’re not sure it’s good enough, or because you’re not sure anyone will take it seriously, or because it just feels easier to go along?

And then think about what happens when someone does speak up. When someone raises their hand and says, “Actually, I think we should do it this way.” When someone walks up to a teacher or a coach or a boss and says, “I have an idea I want to run by you.” When someone calls a meeting to address something that everyone else has been tiptoeing around.

Usually something shifts. Even when the idea doesn’t get used. Even when the conversation is uncomfortable. Something moves.

Ellie Nott, the assistant headteacher at Halling Primary, says something in the article that I think is one of the most important ideas in education, and it’s often one of the least practiced: “Children realize that for positive change to happen, they need to do something about it.”

That is the whole thing. That is what we’re trying to teach when we talk about leadership. Not titles. Not charisma. Not some set of traits you either have or don’t. The understanding that if something needs to change, and you see it, and you don’t do anything about it, then you are choosing to let it stay the same.

The students at Halling Primary School put in buddy benches, created new student groups, pushed for new clubs, and got their playground repainted. Not because a principal decided to do those things. Because students noticed what was missing, said something, organized around it, and followed through.

That’s the full loop. Noticing, speaking, acting, following through. Most people manage one or two of those. The ones who do all four are the ones who actually change things.

Sanderson’s own origin story matters here too. He was a working-class kid at university who felt outclassed, not because he was less capable, but because he had gotten less practice at being heard. The students who grew up in schools where their voices were taken seriously walked into rooms differently. They weren’t smarter. They were more practiced.

What Smart School Councils is trying to do is close that gap early. Give every student, not just the ones with the loudest voices or the most confidence or the best connections, a real chance to practice speaking, being heard, and watching something happen as a result.

That matters a lot. Because confidence isn’t something you’re born with. It’s something you build through repetition and through the experience of being taken seriously.

Every time a student raises an idea and someone in authority actually considers it, the student learns: my voice has weight. Every time a student gets ignored or managed or talked over, the student learns: my voice doesn’t matter. Schools teach those lessons constantly, whether they intend to or not.

The schools that get this right, that actually build structures where student voice leads to real change, are building something more durable than any curriculum. They are building the belief that engagement is worth it. That showing up matters. That you can make your corner of the world a little better if you say the thing and then do the thing.

Abi is ten years old and she already knows there’s no looking back.

That’s not something you pick up from a worksheet. That’s something you learn by opening your mouth in a room full of people and then watching what happens next.

If you’re thinking about how to build that kind of voice, and how to understand what it actually looks like when actions create trust over time, I spent a lot of time writing Actions Earn Respect for exactly this. It’s a guide for students who want to understand how leadership actually works from the inside, not the theory of it, but the practice. The small moments that compound into something real.

Because Jess didn’t become a suggestion box leader and staff liaison officer by waiting to feel ready.

She just started.

When is the right time to start making a difference?

Most people, if they answer honestly, will say something like: when I have more money, when I finish school, when I get settled, when things calm down. Later. Always a little later. Like leadership is a coat that gets put on after life gets more organized.

Eliana Galgoci did not get that memo. In February 2026, reporter Zain Omair covered her story for WNEM TV5 in an article titled “Teen starts nonprofit to encourage volunteerism” — and I thought it was fantastic. Eliana is fifteen years old, a freshman at Fenton High School in Michigan, and she is already the co-founder of a functioning nonprofit called the NextGen Kindness Foundation. Not a club. Not a school project. A nonprofit.

She did not wait until she was old enough to vote, or old enough to drive, or old enough to feel like she had the credentials to lead. She looked around at the needs in her community, felt something pull at her, and decided to do something about it now.

That is the kind of leadership this platform was built to talk about.

Here is what makes this story worth stopping on.

Eliana has been volunteering since she was four years old. Four. At an age when most kids are still figuring out how shoelaces work, she was going with her mom to help people in their community. Writing notes. Tying blankets. Showing up somewhere to be useful.

That did not stop when she got older. It grew. And somewhere along the way, she noticed something.

That gap bothered her. Not in a way that made her frustrated or cynical. In a way that made her want to close it.

So she did.

The NextGen Kindness Foundation has two pillars, as her mother and fellow co-founder Erisa Galgoci described it. The first is encouraging volunteerism at a young age, pulling in children through activities they can do with youth groups and community organizations. The second is engaging older kids in middle and high school to get involved in their communities in meaningful ways.

That is not a small thing. That is a structure. That is intentional design.

Eliana did not just want to help people. She wanted to build something that would help other people want to help people. That is two levels of leadership in one idea.

The foundation gathers with other nonprofit leaders every month to figure out what those organizations need and how NextGen Kindness can contribute. Supply drives. Fundraisers. Real work. And through it all, Eliana says her favorite part is not the recognition or the achievement. It is seeing other people happy. It is connecting with people she had never met before and learning what they are doing to make a difference.

That tells you something about who she is. She is not in this for the credit. She is in it for the human part of it.

Clubs have been started at Fenton High School and Fenton Middle School because of what she built. One student in the high school chapter talked about how the foundation opened her eyes. She had done soup kitchens and other volunteer work with her mom growing up, but NextGen Kindness pushed her further. Made her realize how much more she could do.

That is the multiplier effect. One person acts. Others see it. They act too. The reach grows beyond what any single person could do alone.

One line from a student in that group has stayed with me: “A little bit you do goes a long way. You can help a lot of people with just one small action that you do.”

Not complicated. Not polished. Just true.

Now here is the part that matters most, the part I want you to actually wrestle with.

Eliana Galgoci is fifteen. She is a freshman in high school. She is at the exact same stage of life as many of you reading this right now. She has homework, social stuff, family stuff, the same noise that fills everyone’s schedule.

And yet.

She decided that none of that was a good enough reason to wait.

I think a lot of young people genuinely want to do something. Not just feel good about themselves, but actually contribute. They just do not know where to start, or they convince themselves that they need to be older, bigger, more qualified, more credentialed, more ready before they earn the right to lead.

Eliana skipped that whole conversation.

You do not need a title. You do not need a budget. You do not need to be done with school or settled into a career or waiting for someone older to hand you permission.

You need to see a need that bothers you enough to act on it. And then you need to act.

What Eliana built in Genesee County is a real organization doing real work. But the more important thing she built is a proof point. She proved that a fifteen-year-old with a genuine sense of responsibility and a willingness to show up can create something that multiplies beyond herself.

That proof point is available to anyone who decides to use it.

So I want to come back to the question from the start.

When is the right time to start making a difference?

Eliana Galgoci answered that question for us.

Now is.

If you are working on building that sense of real-world responsibility, the kind that comes from action rather than intention, my book

If you are working on building that sense of real-world responsibility, the kind that comes from action rather than intention, my book Actions Earn Respect was written exactly for this stage of the journey. It is a practical guide for students who are ready to lead before anyone officially tells them they can. The connection is straightforward: Eliana did not wait for permission. Neither should you.

The only gap that actually matters is the one you choose to close.

After prom, the four teenagers headed to a restaurant in New Hartford for a few appetizers with friends, then piled back into the car to head to Donato’s house to change clothes. Just before 11 p.m. on May 17, 2025, they were winding through the streets of Marcy, a quiet town of about 8,700 people in Oneida County, north of Utica.

That’s when Morgan noticed an orange glow in the distance.

At first, the group assumed it was a bonfire. It was prom night, after all. Kids all over Oneida County were out celebrating. But the closer they got, the more wrong that assumption became. The orange wasn’t a bonfire. It was a garage fully consumed in flames.

I first read about their actions in journalist Minyvonne Burke’s piece for NBC News, “High Schoolers Returning from Prom Hailed as Heroes for Helping Save Family from Fire,” and I thought it was an amazing piece of writing about something even more amazing: the instinct to act when it counts.

Donato called 911 immediately. Tyler ran toward the burning garage to check whether anyone was trapped inside. Aiden sprinted to the front door of the house and started pounding on it.

“Your house is on fire! Your house is on fire!” he shouted. He kept pounding. After a few seconds, a young girl opened the door.

“I know my dad is calling the police,” she told him.

“You’ve got to get out,” he said.

Aiden grabbed the two young daughters and ran them across the street to Morgan, who was already there waiting, arms open, ready to comfort frightened children she had never met. Then Aiden ran back. The dad was still at the edge of the yard. Aiden moved him away from the fire.

When firefighters from the Maynard Fire Department arrived, the family was already safely across the street. The garage was gone. The house was untouched.

Fire Chief Jared Pearl later put it plainly in a statement: “The family was safely evacuated before flames could reach the main structure of the home. Thanks to Aiden’s leadership and the team’s quick response, a potential tragedy was averted.”

A potential tragedy. Averted.

Let that settle for a moment.

Three kids and a father and two little girls had an ordinary Saturday night. So did four teenagers in a car. The difference between a tragic ending and a good one? Forty feet of road and a choice to turn around.

Here’s the part I want to focus on. Because this isn’t just a rescue story. It’s a leadership story.

Notice what happened the second those four teens got out of the car. Nobody assigned them roles. Nobody ran a meeting. Nobody said “Okay, Donato, you handle the phone call; Tyler, you check the garage; Aiden, get the door.” They just knew. Each person read the situation and moved toward the most urgent thing in front of them.

That’s what happens when a group of people are genuinely oriented toward solving a problem instead of waiting for instructions. Real teams don’t need to be organized in a crisis. They self-organize. They see the gaps and fill them.

Tyler ran toward the garage because someone needed to know if people were inside. That is not an easy thing to run toward. He ran toward it anyway.

Donato called 911 because the first priority in any emergency is getting professional help on the way, even if you don’t know exactly what the situation is yet. He made that call before he knew how bad it was.

Aiden pounded on the door, got the family out, moved the children to safety, and went back for the dad. He kept moving until every person was away from the fire. That is not a single action. That is a sustained commitment in a moment where the instinct to stop and exhale is real.

And Morgan. I want to be careful here because her role is easy to overlook in the telling of this story, and it shouldn’t be. She spotted the fire. Without Morgan, nobody turns around. Without Morgan, the story ends differently. And then, while the chaos unfolded around the burning garage, she was standing across the street holding frightened children, keeping them calm. That is leadership too. Not every critical role announces itself.

Kane told NBC News that his father had worked in police and EMS, and that spending time on calls as a kid helped him stay calm in that moment. But I want to push back gently on the idea that these four kids acted the way they did only because of what they had seen before.

Tyler Sojda said it to reporters and he got it exactly right: “It’s just like fight or flight; you just have to react. I knew that I saw the little kids when he got them out of the house, and I just knew we did the right thing when I saw those little girls run out of the house. If that were myself in that situation, I would hope someone would help and alert me.”

That’s it. That’s the whole answer. He put himself in someone else’s position and acted the way he would want someone to act for him. That’s empathy as a leadership skill. Not a soft quality. Not a nice extra. The fuel that makes you run toward a burning building instead of driving past it.

And here’s the uncomfortable truth underneath this story: most people drive past.

Not because they’re bad people. Not because they don’t care. But because in the space between noticing something and acting on it, a hundred little hesitations creep in. What if I’m wrong? What if I make it worse? What if it’s not my place? What if someone else is already handling it?

These four teenagers didn’t give those hesitations room to breathe. They saw something. They moved.

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Donato Jellenich said afterward that the group doesn’t see themselves as heroes. And that’s probably true in the way they meant it. They weren’t thinking about how the moment would look from the outside. They were just in it.

But here’s what I’d say to Donato, and to Aiden, Tyler, and Morgan:

The fact that you don’t see yourselves as heroes is exactly what made you capable of acting like them.

Leadership that waits to feel like leadership usually arrives too late. The teenagers who saved a family in Marcy, New York on a May night in 2025 didn’t pause to assess whether this was their responsibility. They didn’t calculate the odds or wait for someone older to take the lead. They got out of the car.

That’s what actions earn. Not applause. Not a title. A father and two daughters who got to go home.

If you want to explore what this kind of leadership looks like in your own life, including how to act before you feel ready, how to build the instincts that kick in when it counts, and how to earn trust through the things you actually do rather than the things you say, my book Actions Earn Respect was written for exactly that. It’s a practical guide for students who are ready to lead in the real world. You can find it on Amazon.

Four teenagers in formal wear showed a father and two little girls what it looks like when someone refuses to drive past.

The door’s open. Who’s going to knock?

I spent years in the United States Marine Corps. I know what it costs to serve. I know what it feels like to be somewhere you can’t leave, while life keeps moving back home without you. I know the specific weight of missing the things that matter, not because you chose to, but because duty asked you to be somewhere else.

So when I read about what happened at a Memorial Day ceremony in Milton, Vermont, this past May 25th, I didn’t just think it was a nice story.

It stopped me.

Colleen Dilthey Thomas wrote about it for InspireMore in a piece titled “Crowd Gives Standing Ovation to Teen Who Stepped in for Deployed Dad During Memorial Day Ceremony“ — and every sentence of it felt personal to me.

Here’s what happened.

Senior Master Sergeant Darren Adams was supposed to speak at his community’s Memorial Day gathering. He had been invited. The town wanted to hear from him. But Sgt. Adams is currently deployed overseas as part of Operation Epic Fury in Iran. He couldn’t be there.

His daughter Brooke, 15 years old, walked up to the microphone and spoke for him.

She filled the gap her dad left behind. And the crowd gave her a standing ovation.

What She Said

Brooke didn’t give a safe, comfortable speech. She said something real.

I want to sit with that for a second, because I’ve been on both sides of what she was describing.

I’ve been the one who couldn’t be home. I’ve watched Memorial Day pass from a long way away. And I’ve come home to find that life moved forward without me, and the people I love found ways to carry things I couldn’t carry from where I was.

That’s what Brooke did. She carried something for her dad.

And she didn’t do it in a quiet, private way. She stood up in front of veterans, families, and neighbors, and she spoke with a clarity that a lot of adults in that room probably admired more than they let on.

Her father, watching from overseas, was described as proud and overwhelmed. I believe it. There are moments when something your kid does reaches across thousands of miles and just levels you. That was one of them.

Willing vs. Brave

Here is the distinction that stays with me most after reading this story.

Brooke didn’t walk up to that microphone brave. She walked up there willing.

Those two things look identical from the outside, but they are not the same thing on the inside.

Bravery, the way most people use the word, implies you’ve conquered the fear. You’ve gotten past it. The knot in your stomach is gone and now you’re ready to go.

In the Marine Corps, we didn’t train people to not be afraid. We trained people to move anyway. Fear is fine. Fear is honest. What matters is whether you let it stop you or whether you carry it forward with you.

Willingness is choosing to go when the fear is still there. And that is what Brooke did. She was 15 years old, standing in front of her dad’s community, speaking about sacrifice and service and the cost of freedom, on the day that honors all of it. I would bet anything she was nervous. But she went anyway, because the moment required it.

That is the thing I want young people to hold onto from this story. Not just that Brooke was impressive. That the decision she made is available to all of them.

The Quiet Side of This Story

There’s something else worth noticing here, beyond Brooke’s individual decision.

Milton, Vermont, is a small town. Residents like Sean Tatro showed up to that fire station year after year because they believe honoring service matters. “Every day, veterans are not being celebrated,” Tatro said. “They should be celebrated every day.”

That culture, the one that gathers, that shows up, that makes space for service members and their families to be seen, is the ground Brooke stood on. She didn’t step into an empty room. She stepped into a room already full of people who understood what her family was carrying.

That matters in a way that doesn’t always get said out loud.

One of the hardest things about deployment isn’t the distance itself. It’s the sense that life back home will just keep moving and no one will really notice you’re gone. Communities like Milton push back on that. They show up. They remember. And in doing so, they make it a little easier for the people left behind to hold their heads up.

Brooke held hers up. High enough for both of them.

What Leadership Actually Looks Like

We spend a lot of time in leadership conversations talking about the big moments. The dramatic decision. The visible act of courage. The thing that makes the highlight reel.

This story isn’t that. Or at least, it didn’t start that way.

It started with a gap. Her dad couldn’t be there. Someone needed to fill it. Brooke made a decision.

She could have said, “Someone else will figure it out.” She could have let the empty chair stay empty. She could have shown up but stayed quiet, let someone else handle the microphone.

She didn’t do any of that.

She prepared. She showed up. She spoke with conviction about things that were true and hard and worth saying, in front of people who needed to hear them. And she did it for her dad, because he couldn’t be there, and because that’s what you do when someone you love needs you to carry something for them.

That is what service looks like when it doesn’t come with a uniform.

And that is the version of leadership I want young people to see in themselves, not the cinematic version, but the real one. The quiet, clear decision to not walk away from a moment that needs something from you.

The Transfer to Your Life

Here’s the question I want to leave you with, because I think it’s worth sitting with for more than a few seconds.

Where in your life right now is there a gap that needs filling, and you’ve been waiting for someone else to fill it?

Maybe it’s a group project where nobody is stepping up. Maybe it’s a conversation that needs to happen with a friend who is clearly struggling. Maybe it’s a responsibility you were handed that doesn’t feel fully like yours, even though you’re the one who can see it most clearly.

You don’t need a deployment story to understand what Brooke did. You just need to recognize the feeling of standing in front of something that needs you, with your fear in your chest, making a decision.

She stood up. She spoke. She filled the gap with something real.

And the crowd rose to their feet, not just because her speech was good, but because the room recognized what she had done. They saw a young person choose to show up for someone else, at a cost to herself, without being required to.

That’s the thing people always feel, whether or not they name it.

That is what leadership looks like when it’s not dressed up for the cameras.

Before You Go

If you want to keep developing this kind of leadership in yourself, the practical, grounded, action-over-words kind, I put a lot of what I’ve learned through service and through working with students into a book called Actions Earn Respect: A Practical Guide for Students Ready to Lead. It’s direct and honest and built for people who want to do the work, not just read about it.

Find it on Amazon here.

The microphone is there. The room is waiting. You get to decide what happens next.

A couple of weeks ago I came across a piece by Andy Corbley in the Good News Network titled “Students Work to Fundraise to Save Habitat Where They Watch Bald Eagle Chicks on Livestream,” and I thought it was fantastic. I want to walk you through it, because buried inside a story about kids and bald eagles is one of the best leadership lessons I have seen in a while.

Their teacher is named Sara Stinson. She teaches fourth-grade science, and last year she did something small that turned out to be far bigger than she planned. She introduced her class to two bald eagles named Jackie and Shadow. There is a webcam, running around the clock, set up by a nonprofit called Friends of Big Bear Valley, pointed right at the eagles’ nest in California’s Big Bear Valley.

So the kids watched. And I mean they really watched. They watched Jackie and Shadow haul sticks and build the nest. They watched the eggs get laid. They watched, day after day, for the eggs to hatch. They watched two fuzzy chicks turn into something that finally looked like actual eagles, live, on a screen in the corner of their classroom. Stinson called it the perfect companion to a lesson on the cycle of life. Somewhere in there, the eagles stopped being a science unit. They became part of the class.

If you have ever cared about a team, a show, a pet, or a place, you already know how this happens. You check in every day. You start to feel like you have a stake in how the story turns out. That is what these eagles became for a room full of nine-year-olds. A daily ritual. Something that was, in a small way, theirs.

Here is the thing about watching something grow up. You do not decide to care. It just happens. One day it is a class assignment, and the next you are checking the nest before you even sit down, hoping both chicks made it through a cold night. By spring, those kids were not studying eagles. They were rooting for them.

Then one ordinary morning, Stinson pulled up the live cam and learned something hard. The stretch of shoreline where the eagles hunt, the last undeveloped piece of Big Bear Lake, was about to be sold and built on. The only way to stop it was for someone to find ten million dollars and buy the land first.

Ten million. Sit with that number from the point of view of a nine-year-old. It might as well be ten billion. It is exactly the kind of number that makes a grown adult shrug, exhale, and say, well, that one is way over my head, nothing I can do about that.

That shrug is the most natural thing in the world. We do it constantly. The problem is big, I am small, so I quietly file it under not my job and move on with my day. A lot of adult life runs on that shrug.

Stinson shared the news with her class, expecting, I imagine, that they would feel a little sad and then move on the way the rest of us do. And here is where the story turns. The kids did not shrug. One of them, a fourth grader named Evie Cook, said it about as plainly as it can be said. When they first heard, it was sad, because the thing they had watched for years might just disappear.

The story is sweet. The lesson is what I want you to carry out the door with you.

Because most people never ask that question. Not really. They feel something. They care about something. They get that tight, restless feeling in the chest when they see something that is not right. And then they wait. They wait for someone older. Someone richer. Someone with a title, a budget, or official permission to act. Somewhere along the way, most of us quietly started believing that caring and doing are the same thing.

They are not. Caring is a feeling. Doing is a choice. The gap between the two is exactly where most leadership goes to die. It dies in good people who felt the right thing and then waited for somebody else to move first.

I have watched it happen to adults with every advantage. More money than those kids will see in a decade. More authority. More connections. And still they wait, because waiting feels responsible. It feels like being realistic. But realistic is often just the polite word we use for talking ourselves out of things.

These kids did not wait. One of them set up a lemonade stand. Another started posting flyers around local businesses with information on how to donate. They ran bake sales. Let that picture sit for a second. They are fourth graders. They have no money of their own, no authority, and no guarantee that any of it would add up to anything. So they reached for what was actually in their hands. A folding table. A pitcher. A stack of homemade flyers. A free Saturday afternoon.

Picture that lemonade stand for a minute. A kid on a folding chair on a Saturday, calling out to neighbors, trying to explain why two eagles a hundred miles away matter. Most grown adults would be too self-conscious to do that. Too worried about looking foolish over a few dollars. These kids were not. They had decided the eagles were worth a little awkwardness, and that one decision made them braver than most of the adults walking past.

That is the whole thing, right there. Leadership almost never starts with resources. It starts with a decision. The decision to treat a problem as yours, even when nobody assigned it to you, even when you are the smallest, youngest, least powerful person in the room. Especially then.

Now let me turn the camera around on you for a second. Look at your own world. Your school. Your team. Your friend group. Your house. I am willing to bet there is already something you have noticed that is not right. A kid who eats lunch alone every single day. A teammate who is quietly coming apart and hoping nobody asks. A club that is dying because nobody will step up to run it. A grandparent who needs help they are too proud to ask for out loud.

You have already done the hard part. You noticed. You care. That puts you ahead of most people. The only question left is the one the fourth graders answered. Are you going to stay a person who cares, or become a person who does something about it? Those are two different people. You get to pick which one you are, and you get to pick today. Those kids picked the second one, and they are nine years old. So what is your excuse going to be?

And do not tell me you are too young, too new, or too far down the list to matter. Age was the one thing those kids could not change about themselves, and it turned out to be the least important fact in the whole story. Nobody at that land trust asked how old the donors were. They just counted the money.

Notice, too, what they did not do. They did not wait until they could raise the full ten million before they were allowed to begin. They did not hold a meeting to decide who was in charge first. A lemonade stand will not buy a lakeshore, and they knew that perfectly well. They did it anyway, because a small action that is real will always beat a big plan that never happens. The land trust working on the purchase has now pulled together about a quarter of the money. Those kids and their paper cups are part of that quarter. Their dollars are in the pile. They counted.

Read that part again, because it is the piece people miss. You do not have to solve the whole thing to be part of solving it. You just have to start your piece. Today. With what is already in your hands. The rest gets figured out by the people who started.

Your first step will probably look small. It is supposed to. A small step you actually take beats a grand plan you keep meaning to start. The lemonade stand was small. The flyers were small. The bake sales were small. Added up, over weeks, with other people deciding to join in, all of that small turned into something real.

There is one more quiet thing in this story worth naming. These kids did not do it alone, and nobody had to tell them to band together. They turned a classroom into a team. One ran the stand. One made the flyers. One talked to the neighbors. That is leadership too. Not the loud kind. The kind where you pull other people into something that matters and let everyone carry a corner of it.

That is worth remembering the next time something feels too big for one person to handle. It probably is too big for one person. But it is rarely too big for a small group who simply decided to begin, and then invited a few others to grab a corner and pull.

Here is what those fourth graders understand that a lot of grown adults have somehow managed to forget. Anyone can care. It costs nothing, and by itself, it changes nothing. Leaders are the ones who do something about it.

If you are the kind of young person who reads a story like this and feels something actually move, I wrote a book with you in mind. It is called Actions Earn Respect, and it is built around this exact move. How to stop waiting for permission, and start taking the small, unglamorous actions that quietly stack up into real leadership over time. It is less a pep talk and more a field guide for spotting what is already in your hands and putting it to work. You can find it on Amazon.

A few weeks ago, the Good News Network ran a story “The Pandemic May Have Changed Young People for the Better: A Positive Take on The ‘COVID Generation” that I feel needs to be talked about.

Not because it was loud.

Not because it was dramatic.

Because it quietly challenged one of the biggest lies adults keep repeating about young people.

You hear it all the time.

This generation is distracted. This generation is soft. This generation only cares about screens. This generation lacks resilience.

Then something difficult happened.

And a lot of young people stepped up when they didn’t have to.

That matters.

During the peak of the pandemic in 2021, a group of teenagers in Sackets Harbor, New York got certified as ambulance drivers and helped keep their local emergency medical service running after older volunteers had to step away because of COVID concerns.

Think about that for a second.

Teenagers.

Not posting about leadership. Not talking about leadership. Actually carrying responsibility that directly affected their community.

At the same time in Los Angeles, youth volunteers with Teen Line answered texts and calls from other teenagers struggling with isolation, anxiety, and mental health challenges during lockdowns.

Elsewhere, kids assembled care packages for people in need. Other students used school 3D printers to create face shields for essential workers.

Most people missed those stories.

Or maybe they saw them and moved on too fast.

But I think those moments revealed something important about leadership.

It doesn’t always arrive with confidence. It doesn’t wait until someone feels fully prepared. It doesn’t require a title.

A lot of the time, leadership starts when someone notices a gap and decides not to walk past it.

That’s the part I want young people to understand.

The world keeps trying to convince teenagers that leadership is about influence. Followers. Attention. Status. Visibility.

It’s not.

Leadership is responsibility.

That’s it.

The teenagers driving ambulances during the pandemic were not trying to build a personal brand. They were solving a problem that needed solving.

The students answering mental health calls were not trying to go viral. They understood somebody out there needed another human being to listen.

That’s leadership.

And honestly, I think a lot of adults underestimate how capable young people really are.

We hand teenagers endless lectures about responsibility while refusing to actually trust them with responsibility.

Then we act surprised when they struggle to develop confidence.

Confidence is not built through motivational speeches.

Confidence is built through usefulness.

You become more confident when people depend on you.

You become more mature when your actions affect somebody else.

You become more responsible when the outcome matters.

That’s why I push students toward action whenever I can.

Not fake leadership. Not résumé leadership. Not leadership that only exists in meetings and group chats.

Real action.

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Solve something. Help somebody. Notice what everyone else keeps ignoring.

Because the students who learn to do that early become very different adults later.

I’ve seen it happen.

Some students wait for permission their entire lives.

Others slowly train themselves to become the kind of person who steps forward when something needs to happen.

That difference changes everything.

The pandemic exposed a lot of weaknesses in society.

But it also exposed strengths people were not paying attention to.

A lot of young people adapted faster than adults expected.

Some learned how to care for younger siblings. Some helped grandparents navigate technology. Some worked jobs while still trying to finish school. Some carried emotional pressure far beyond what people realized.

And many of them did it quietly.

No applause. No cameras. No headlines.

Just responsibility.

That’s one reason I get frustrated when leadership gets reduced to motivational quotes online.

Leadership is not how inspired you sound.

Leadership is how dependable you become.

That’s a much harder thing to build.

Dependable people answer the phone. Dependable people show up. Dependable people stay calm when things get difficult. Dependable people notice what needs to be done without needing constant reminders.

The teenagers in that article were dependable.

And that matters more to me than almost any leadership slogan I’ve ever heard.

I also think there’s another lesson buried inside those stories.

Young people usually rise to the level of responsibility we trust them with.

If adults constantly communicate low expectations, teenagers eventually absorb those expectations.

But when young people are trusted with meaningful responsibility, many of them become stronger than anybody expected.

That does not mean teenagers are perfect.

Of course they aren’t.

Adults aren’t either.

But somewhere along the way, society became obsessed with criticizing young people while forgetting how much pressure they’re carrying.

A generation raised during social media. A generation shaped by lockdowns. A generation constantly compared against impossible standards. A generation trying to build confidence while living under nonstop visibility.

And still, many of them keep showing up.

That deserves more respect.

I think about teachers who watched students quietly help classmates during difficult periods.

I think about older siblings who became second parents during the pandemic.

I think about students who learned how to manage stress, isolation, uncertainty, and responsibility years earlier than they should have needed to.

Those experiences shaped them.

Sometimes hardship reveals character that comfort never would.

Now here’s the important part.

None of this means leadership only matters during emergencies.

Actually, the small moments matter more.

The teenager who notices a lonely student sitting by themselves.

The athlete who helps clean up after everybody else leaves.

The student who takes initiative on a group project instead of waiting for instructions.

The friend who checks on somebody who has been acting different lately.

That’s where leadership is really built.

Not during speeches.

During habits.

The pandemic examples stand out because the stakes were high.

But the mindset underneath those actions can exist every day.

Pay attention. Take ownership. Step forward. Help without being asked.

Those habits compound over time.

And eventually people begin trusting you with bigger responsibilities.

That trust becomes opportunity.

A lot of students think leadership starts after graduation.

It doesn’t.

It starts the moment people realize they can rely on you.

That can happen at fifteen. Or sixteen. Or seventeen.

Sometimes earlier.

The story is impressive.

But the lesson is what I want you to carry with you.

Young people are far more capable than the world often gives them credit for.

The question is whether they are willing to act on that capability.

Because leadership is not waiting until you feel important.

Leadership is noticing responsibility before anybody hands you a title.

That’s the difference.

And honestly, I think this generation may surprise a lot of people over the next decade.

Not because they talk louder.

Because many of them already learned how to carry weight.

If you’re trying to build those habits in your own life, that’s one reason I wrote Actions Earn Respect. The book focuses on practical leadership behaviors that students can actually apply in everyday situations. Not hype. Not slogans. Just the small actions that slowly build trust, confidence, and responsibility over time.

The students who quietly step forward today often become the adults everyone depends on tomorrow.

Picture a seventeen-year-old kid in Naivasha, Kenya. He has bronchitis. Not the kind you catch and shake off. The kind you live with. The kind that gets worse every time he walks past a line of minibuses pumping black smoke into the air.

His name is Fredrick Njoroge Kariuki. And Mongabay reported that he and his classmate Miron Onsarigo, also seventeen, just won an international Earth Prize for what they did about it.

This is the part I want you to hear before anything else.

They didn’t write a petition. They didn’t post about it. They didn’t wait for the city to fix the buses, or for the government to fix the cars, or for a foundation to fund a study. They built a filter. Out of maize cobs, coconut shells, agricultural waste, recycled batteries, and algae. In a country where almost everyone gets around on shared minibuses called matatus and motorcycle taxis called boda bodas, the air around those vehicles is part of daily life. And daily life was hurting them.

So they got to work.

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They call their invention HewaSafi. Swahili for “clean air.” It is a multi-stage vehicle exhaust filter. It captures more than 90 percent of the particulate matter coming out of a tailpipe. It also reduces carbon dioxide and carbon monoxide emissions. It is designed for the matatus and boda bodas specifically because those are the vehicles most people use, and the vehicles most responsible for the air in their neighborhoods.

Here is the part most adults will miss.

Fredrick and Miron did not pick this problem because it was glamorous. They did not pick it because it would impress a college admissions officer. They picked it because it was hurting them and the people they love.

And Miron said something worth slowing down for. “Back home in Kisumu, seeing people get sick from vehicle fumes was just normal. But normal didn’t feel right to me.”

Hear that again.

Normal didn’t feel right to me.

That is the sentence. That is the whole leadership lesson sitting inside one teenager’s quote. The willingness to look at something everyone has agreed is just how things are, and say, no. This is broken. And I’m going to do something about it.

Most people never get there. They see the broken thing, they sigh about it, they keep walking. They tell themselves someone else will handle it. They tell themselves they are too young, too inexperienced, too whatever. They wait. And the broken thing stays broken.

Now look at what these two seventeen-year-olds actually did with that decision. They did not try to redesign the entire transportation system in Kenya. They did not try to ban matatus. They did not try to convince every driver in the country to buy a Tesla. They built one thing. One filter. Out of stuff that was already around them. Maize cobs from local farms. Coconut shells. Agricultural waste. Spent batteries that were already going to be thrown out. Algae. The materials were cheap, available, and almost worthless to a thief. That last part matters. Conventional exhaust systems get stripped for scrap, but HewaSafi has nothing on it worth stealing. They designed it with their actual world in mind.

Then they piloted it with a local matatu association. Not a research lab three time zones away. The actual drivers in their actual community. And it worked. It worked well enough to win them a regional Earth Prize, $12,500 in funding, and a path to commercial production. They are now building a product family with installment payment options, so drivers can actually afford to install it.

That is leadership.

Not the speech. Not the title. The seeing, the deciding, the building, the testing with the people who will use it.

Now bring it home. You do not live in Naivasha. You are probably not building an exhaust filter. But here is the lesson Fredrick and Miron just handed you, free of charge.

Look at what is broken in your world. Not the world. Your world. Your hallway. Your team. Your friend group. Your locker room. Your bus ride. Your morning. There is something there that you have walked past a hundred times because everyone treats it as normal. The freshman who eats alone. The teammate who is getting iced out of the group chat. The teacher whose classroom is a mess of broken systems no one bothers to fix. The thing your family has just stopped talking about because nobody wants to deal with it.

You know what it is. You have already named it in your head while you have been reading.

The question is the same question Miron asked himself in Kisumu.

Does normal feel right to me?

If it doesn’t, you are looking at your work. Not somebody else’s. Yours.

And here is the encouraging part. You do not need a lab. You do not need a budget. You do not need permission. Fredrick and Miron used maize cobs and coconut shells. You can start with a conversation. A text. A move toward the freshman with the empty seat. A direct line to your coach about something on the team. A talk with your sister you have been putting off. A small, specific, doable action.

If you are a young person trying to learn how to lead in your real life, my book Actions Earn Respect was written for exactly this moment. It walks through how to spot the openings around you, how to act with quiet confidence, and how to earn trust the only way trust actually gets earned, which is over time, through what you do. It is plain language and it is practical, the kind of thing a mentor would hand you across a coffee table. You can find it on Amazon.

Two seventeen-year-olds in Kenya looked at the air making them sick and refused to call it normal. They did not wait for permission. They did not wait for the perfect plan. They built the fix with what was around them.

So I will leave you with their question.

What in your world have you been calling normal that isn’t?

Go fix it.

A few days ago, Good News Network ran a story I want every young person in my life to hear. It came out of India. Three sixteen-year-olds named Vivaan Chhawchharia, Ariana Agarwal, and Avyana Mehta. Friends. Classmates. Just three kids who got curious about something big.

They wanted to do something about microplastics in drinking water. That is not a small problem. Microplastics, those flecks of broken-down plastic that are far too small to see with the naked eye, have been found in the human brain. They have been found in the placenta of unborn babies. They have been recorded on the top of Mount Everest and at the bottom of the Mariana Trench. Over 2.2 billion people on Earth do not have safe, filtered drinking water. They store water in shared containers, and the plastic is in the water.

This is a famous problem. The kind of problem you would expect to be tackled by a Swiss laboratory with a billion-dollar budget and a team of PhDs. Not three teenagers with a school science class and a question.

Here is where the story gets good. The three of them looked around. They studied. They visited a rural community and watched how families actually stored their water. And the thing that finally worked was already in their kitchen. Tamarind. The same tamarind their families have used to flavor curries and chutneys for generations.

They figured out that powdered tamarind seed acts like a magnet for microplastics. You stir a little of it into a container of water. The invisible plastic particles clump together with the tamarind into something visible. Then you pull all of that out of the water with a regular handheld magnet. No electricity. No expensive filtration. No lab.

They called it Plas-Stick.

The Earth Prize, an international science competition run out of Geneva, just named their team the 2026 Asia winners. They were awarded funding to scale their invention to rural communities across India.

That is the story. Now I want to give you the leadership lesson behind it, because the lesson is bigger than the invention.

Most people, when they hear about a problem this big, do one of two things. They get overwhelmed and shut down. Or they wait. They wait for the experts. They wait for permission. They wait for funding. They wait for someone older, smarter, more credentialed to come along and fix it. That waiting room is crowded. Most people in it never get up.

These three did not wait. They did not have a fancy lab. They did not have decades of credentials. They had a school science class, a question that would not leave them alone, and a visit to a real community where they saw the problem with their own eyes. So they used what they had.

That is leadership.

Leadership is not the title. It is not the position. It is not waiting until you “have enough” to begin. Leadership is looking at the resources already in your hand, your home, your school, your friend group, and asking a different question than everyone else is asking. Not “what do I lack?” but “what could I build with this?” Not someday. Right now.

Think about your own world for a second. Your school cafeteria has a recycling habit that nobody has bothered to fix. Your team has a player who keeps getting left out. Your neighborhood has an older neighbor who cannot get to the store anymore. Your club has a fundraiser that has been the same for three years and is running out of steam. Your group chat has a friend who has gone quiet and nobody has checked on her. There is always something. There is always something on your shelf.

You will be tempted to wait. Wait for a teacher to organize the recycling. Wait for the coach to handle the player. Wait for an adult to drive the neighbor to the store. Wait for a budget to magically appear. Wait for permission you do not actually need.

Vivaan, Ariana, and Avyana would tell you to stop waiting and start looking at what is already in your hand.

The tamarind seed had been in those girls’ homes their entire lives. It was always there. They did not invent the tamarind. They did not invent water. What they did was look at what was already in front of them and ask a different question.

That question costs nothing to ask. It just costs courage to actually try the answer you come up with, and to be willing to look foolish in front of people while you experiment. Most people are not willing to do that part. That is why most people are still in the waiting room.

There is one more piece of this story I want you to lock in. They did not do it alone. They were a team. Three names. Three signatures on the work. Three girls who chose to bet on each other. You do not have to be the smartest student in the room to lead something. You have to be willing to find two friends who are willing to figure it out with you. Partnership and leadership are the same muscle. One does not work without the other.

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For any young person reading this who is wondering whether they are old enough, smart enough, or “ready” enough to step up and lead something in their own world, I wrote my book Actions Earn Respect with you specifically in mind. It is not theory and it is not motivational filler. It is a practical guide to spotting the openings around you and walking through them with quiet confidence. The kind of book you can read on the bus and try the next day. You can find it on Amazon.

So the next time a problem in your world feels too big for you, remember three sixteen-year-olds who looked at a global crisis and said, “we have a kitchen, we have a science class, we have each other.”

That was enough.

It is enough for you, too.

Start where you stand. With what you have. Build from there.

A few weeks ago, the Good News Network ran a story that’s been sitting with me ever since. There’s the part everyone shares. And then there’s the part underneath it, where the actual leadership lesson hides.

Devon Champenoy was 13 years old, riding the rapids of Georgia’s Blue Ridge Mountains with his scout troop from Houston. Class 3 rapids. Summer camp. Hot day. His scout leader, David Lemley, was at the stern of the raft when he lost his balance and fell in the first time. He climbed back in laughing into his helmet camera about how fun the water was. They kept going.

Then he fell in again.

This time was different. His foot got jammed under the seat of the raft. His head and torso went under. He was splayed out across the side, completely stuck. The only breaths he could grab came in the seconds when the water level dropped low enough for his head to break the surface. His helmet bought him time as his head bounced off rocks while the raft surged down the river.

Most 13-year-olds, in that moment, would freeze. Or panic. Or scream. Devon did something different.

Kayakers got there in time to finish the rescue. Lemley later told KHOU 11 News, “I have no doubt that if Devon hadn’t released my foot I was going to die.” Devon’s reaction to that line in the same interview was almost flat. He said it took him a while to even take in the fact that it had happened.

That’s the moment everyone shares. That’s the moment the helmet camera caught. That’s the moment the news led with.

But here’s what stopped me on the second pass.

After the rescue, Lemley’s foot was broken. Kayakers had pulled him out, but the river wasn’t done with the rest of them. Twenty more minutes of rapids stood between that raft and the takeout. The leader was injured. The team was shaken. And nobody was sitting in the back seat to pilot.

So Devon, just 13, climbed into the pilot’s spot. And kept everyone calm. And kept everyone moving. For twenty more minutes.

Twenty minutes in class 3 rapids is not a paddle home. It is reading rocks. It is calling lines. It is keeping a crew of shaken teenagers focused while one of them stares at an injured adult on the floor of the raft. A grown man with a broken foot. A river that does not care that you are 13.

Hold that picture in your head for a minute.

Most stories about young heroes stop at the hero moment. The save. The grab. The pull. The photo of someone holding a medal next to the person whose life they saved. (Devon got that medal, by the way. The Honor Medal with Crossed Palms. Fewer than 300 of those have been awarded in the 100-plus year history of the Boy Scouts of America. He also got a special recognition from the governor of Texas.)

Anyone can rise for thirty seconds. Adrenaline carries people through almost anything for half a minute. The real question, the one that separates leaders from heroes, is what you do when the crisis passes and the work isn’t done yet.

Think about the seasons in your own life when the crisis was over but the job wasn’t.

The big game your team lost. The week after.

The presentation that fell apart in front of the class. The next morning.

The friend who needed you on the worst night of their year. The Monday after.

The teammate who got cut. The locker room the next day.

The breakup. The bad grade. The group text that blew up. The disappointment that didn’t go away when the bell rang.

The moment everyone is watching is the easy part. People rise. People perform. Devon released a foot. Brave, sure. But almost predictable in a way. That’s what training is for. The harder part is the twenty minutes after.

When nobody is filming. When the rush is gone. When the team is shaken and the adults are hurt and the water is still moving and somebody has to sit in the back of the raft and keep the boat pointed downstream.

That’s where leadership actually lives. Not in the save. In the steering.

There’s something quieter inside this story too.

Before Devon climbed across the raft, before he reached for the foot, before he did anything brave at all, he did one thing first. He took a breath. He steadied himself. That’s in his own words from the interview.

Take a beat on that. A 13-year-old kid. His scout leader drowning ten feet away. Water roaring around him. Rocks slamming the raft. And his first move wasn’t to lunge. It was to breathe.

That’s not weakness. That’s not hesitation. That’s the move that made everything after it work.

The people who panic don’t get the foot loose. The people who lunge slip and miss. The people who breathe first are the ones who actually pull it off.

If you’re trying to lead anywhere in your life right now, your team, your friend group, your family, your classroom, your house, write that one down somewhere you’ll see it.

The breath comes before the move.

And here is the thing about training. Devon was trained. Scout camps. Water drills. Swift-water rescue exercises. His body knew what to do when the moment came. But training only writes the muscle memory. Character decides whether you act on it. Plenty of trained people freeze when the water is real. The training is the floor. The breath is the door.

If you want to build the kind of courage that shows up when the adults can’t, that’s the thing I wrote Actions Earn Respect about. Not for the kid who already knows what to do. For the kid in the middle of the raft, still figuring out whether he’s the one who steers. It’s full of stories like this one and the small daily moves that turn a regular student into the person other people can count on when the moment turns. Worth a look if that’s where you are right now.

One last thing.

Devon didn’t tell anyone he wanted that medal. He didn’t post about the rescue. The story only came out because Lemley, the man whose life he saved, recommended him for the commendation. Devon’s job was to do the thing. Other people’s job was to notice.

You don’t have to broadcast leadership. You just have to live it. The right people will see.

There was a boy at their school wearing shorts on a cold day.

That was it. That was the whole moment. A kid in shorts when it was freezing outside.

A thousand other students walked past that boy. Most of them probably didn’t even see him. The ones who did probably figured it wasn’t their business. He’s a weird dresser. Or he’s tough. Or whatever. Move along.

But the Hua brothers stopped and asked him why.

The kid told them the truth. He didn’t have another pair of pants. They were in the wash. He didn’t have anything else to wear.

That’s the moment this whole story turns on. Not the kid’s answer. Their question.

Because most people don’t ask. Most people see somebody struggling and pretend they didn’t. Most people are afraid of saying the wrong thing or getting involved in something that isn’t theirs. So they look away.

Desmond and Ethan didn’t look away. And then they didn’t stop at the question either.

They went home and figured out the real problem. Kids outgrow their school uniforms fast. Families on tight budgets can’t keep replacing them. Meanwhile, perfectly fine uniforms get tossed in the trash all over the country every year, where they sit in landfills for hundreds of years and release a greenhouse gas called methane.

The waste was right there. The need was right there. Nobody had connected them.

So they did.

The brothers started a nonprofit out of their own garage called HOPE, which stands for Help Our Mother Earth. The idea was simple. Collect uniforms that families had outgrown. Redistribute them to families who needed them. Use the bins at school offices as the drop-off and pickup spots.

Two kids. One garage. Stacks of plastic chests full of folded clothes.

Last count, they had saved roughly 1,400 families about $140,000 in uniform costs. They had kept about 13,000 pieces of clothing out of the trash. That is around 30 tons of methane they prevented from ever going into the air. Their work runs through nine public schools in the San Mateo-Foster City School District now, all from that one moment of noticing something other kids walked past.

Their school principal told the reporters she was thrilled to be part of it. Ethan picked up an award from a local foundation for what he and his brother had built.

The story is impressive. The lesson is what I want you to take with you.

This whole thing started because two kids asked one question. Not a fundraising pitch. Not a community meeting. Not a school assembly. Just a question. “Hey, why are you wearing shorts when it’s this cold out?”

That’s leadership.

People love to talk about leadership like it’s some big, dramatic thing. Like you have to be standing on a stage with a microphone or running a meeting or holding a clipboard. But that’s not where leadership starts. Leadership starts in the part most people skip.

The part where you notice.

Most folks are walking around with their heads down. Eyes on a phone. Headphones in. Brain somewhere else. They’re not actually seeing the people around them. They’re not seeing the kid in shorts on the cold day. They’re not seeing the friend who’s been quieter than usual. They’re not seeing the teammate who’s been carrying more than their share. They’re not seeing the new student who has nobody to sit with at lunch.

You can’t lead what you don’t see.

The Hua brothers saw. That was step one.

Step two was even harder. They asked. They were willing to stop being comfortable for the thirty seconds it takes to walk up to somebody and say, “Hey, you okay?” That little bit of social risk is what blocks most people from ever doing anything that matters. They’re afraid of getting it wrong. So they get nothing right.

Step three is what separates the kind people from the leaders. Kind people would have heard the kid’s answer and felt bad for him and maybe even given him a jacket. That’s good. That’s not nothing.

But the brothers didn’t stop there. They looked at one boy in shorts and thought, how many other kids are dealing with this same thing right now? They went past the one person in front of them and started thinking about everyone like him.

That’s the part I want you to chew on. Because that’s the part nobody teaches.

A lot of young people have been told that to make a difference, you need a big idea, a budget, a board of directors, an angle, a brand. None of that is true. What you need is one moment of noticing, one moment of asking, and one decision to keep moving after you have the answer.

Two brothers. A garage. Bins of folded shirts. Fourteen hundred families helped.

You don’t need to be on television. You don’t need a thousand followers. You don’t need a teacher to put you in charge of a committee. The opportunity to lead is already sitting in front of you somewhere this week. Maybe it’s a kid at your lunch table who’s been off lately. Maybe it’s a problem at your school nobody is fixing because everybody’s waiting for someone else. Maybe it’s a friend who told you something hard and you have no idea what to say.

You don’t need to know what to say. You just need to be the person who shows up.

The brothers didn’t have a master plan that morning. They had eyes, and they had nerve, and they had a heart that didn’t let them just keep walking. That’s all it took to start.

The boy in shorts has clothes now. Hundreds of other kids do too. And it all started because two regular teenagers decided that paying attention was their job.

If there is one thing I want you to walk away with this week, let it be that. Leadership begins the moment you stop walking past.

Pay attention. Then move.

If this kind of story hits you the way it hit me, you might get something real out of the book I wrote, Actions Earn Respect. It’s built around stories like the Hua brothers, young people who didn’t wait to be told they were leaders before they started acting like one. If you’re a student trying to figure out how to step up in your school, your team, or your community, you’ll find practical ground to stand on inside it.

The boy in shorts didn’t need a hero. He needed somebody to notice. Be that person this week.

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